So, a while ago I met a girl (lets call her Blond), got the # but she lost her phone and we never really spoke (though we saw one another from time to time).

Two weeks ago, I meet another girl (lets call her Brunette). Last weekend, I had a blowjob from Brunette. It turns out Brunette and Blond are friends. "Best friends." Well, Im loosing interest in Brunette and would love to transition over to Blond. And to be honest, I don't see it as impossible.

Brunette doesn't seem super into me either. Or maybe she's just shy and reluctant to show it. I know she likes me enough to answer my calls and blow me, but there may not be much beyond that for her. But to be honest, I'm not quite sure.

I was speaking to Blond last night and I could tell there was interest. She kino'd and showed other IOIs. I would go so far as to say the fact that I hooked up with her friend actually helped bolster my attractiveness in her eyes.

So, with that being said, is there anything anyone can throw out on the subject? Im not looking to hurt Brunette and if moving to another involves heavy malice I'd rather just avoid it and drop them both. But hey, maybe it can be pulled off smoothly? Any ideas?

First make sure about how the brunette feels about you. Then be honest and be nice (hopefully its mutual) so that you come off as a good guy, just be direct and give her a good reason. Make sure you keep contact with them, focus on the blonde but every now and then drop the brunette a friendly sms. The idea here is you want to be solid in her friend zone (even tho you arent going to be spending time or being a real friend, its just where she mentally shelves you) so that she has a good vibe about you and she passes that vibe along to her gf.

They will talk, this is fine. You want them to be talking about good things about you. At the same time start turning the heat up on blondie, tho give it at least a week or two before you really get overt with your game (unless she sends just a ton of IOIs). GF's want their gf's to have cool bf's, even if its someone they already tested out. Ive been with plenty of girls in this way, just be smooth and be nice about it.

Thank you for your response. Dully noted. But how the hell do I make Brunette my friend? lol.

Mind you... I've never been the LJBFs guy. Through out my whole life its only happened once. I'm not mentioning that to brag, its actually a hole in my social game. So maybe this can be an opportunity to start to close that gap.

Anyways, yea, so any actual strategy or tactics to befriending a girl I"ve already hooked up with?

*cough* well to be honest, I always make friends with the girls I am hooking up with before I have sex with them, unless its just random one nighter from a club or something.. (no i dont go for the LJBF zone and work my way up, but im honestly interested in the person as a friend, you can be sexual and friendly at the same time.)

just be nice and treat her like you would a normal friend? Just dont try to make out with her, remove yourself as a sexual object. =P

The point tho wasnt to actually befriend her so much, as to get her to mentally place you in the "friends" zone. This just means she thinks you are a real nice guy and worth enough to fuck her friends, even tho it didnt work out between the two of you. If you spend too much time being her actual friend, it could cause trouble if you then start hitting on her gf. Just a friendly hello here and there should do it.

I suppose ultimately what I'm asking is how do I recede from the "I just blew him" zone to the "I just blew him but now we're friends and I'm OK with that" zone rather than "how do I be her friend."

I believe your last post gives me clear "big picture" idea of what to do. Its a matter of how to achieve that. I suppose next time I see her (probably Saturday at the club) I'll chat but not make an effort to hang around. Maybe even openly (though not obnoxiously) chat with other girls around her. We'll see how it goes.

In any case, thank you again for your response! This should be interesting

Yeah people are vastly different when it comes to the little details. While it may be easy to give the big picture, or generalize, it is almost impossible to give a step by step instruction for how to get somebody from point A to point B.

You have to focus on all their little signals, pay close attention and really open yourself up to the them. Everybody plays by a different tune. While I am perhaps abnormally empathic (not supernatural, mind you) and can often read people very quickly and very accurately, I find the best course of action is usually to talk openly with them about it. Nobody can read minds, so just tell her how you feel about her and how you hope to stand with her, and most likely she will conform to that as best she can, so long as its acceptable to her. Its what people do best.