Dude, you're basing all of your thinking based upon YOUR thinking. What about him? What about what he thinks?

I think it's silly to assume that it's part of his game, cause there's a huge possibility that it isn't and that it's just an accident. Not everything everyone does is calculated.

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Why does he have pics of his ex on his old phone? This is totally crazy and unacceptable. You should take some proactive measures.

1. Erase all those pictures.

2. Replace them with nude photos of yourself.

This ought to teach him a lesson.

In the debate of Intentional vs. Unintentional . . . I'm leaning towards "intentional" for these reasons:

Ask me where my car keys are. I don't know. Ask me where my nude photos are and I'll present you with a slide show with background music within seconds. Now I'm sure not all guys are this way but . . . unless this guy is totally unorganized and is the type who forgets where he parked his car in a strip mall, I'm betting on "intentional". This has less to do with "calculation" or the "game" and more do with "organization".

Thankyou. i know my opinion opener for tonight . are you sure that its his ex?
V1V

I know it silly to assume it is part of his game... but its working, isnt it?

CK

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When I was still dating her my ex had plugged her iphone into my computer to charge it. It ended up automatically syncing and somehow just about every picture in my comp ended up on her phone! She had pics of my ex's and some porn pics and everything. The funny part was she apparently didn't have much of a frame of reference and thought my small bit of porn (less than 400MB) was a lot so she thought I was some porn addict freak. It took me quite a while to get her to see that most men have at least some porn and that there are a lot of men who have whole hard drives full of it and that mine would actually be considered far below average.

It's funny when things like this happen.

HAHA! gutted boi!
V1V

don't bring it up lol i left porn on my electronic device that i let this girl borrowed she went through it and was disgusted but fourtanetly we are the male species so it makes us look all cool ya digg so don't bring it up unless it's like a definte need and if u do be like i saw ur extra pics and just continue from there

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im actually surpsied when girls ask me if i watch porn, and im like yeah doh ofcourse i do, what the hell do you think i am? then she gets totally offended and calls me disgusting and i ask my friend whether he watches porn and ofcourse than son of a bitch lies and tells her he doesnt watch porn nor does he have any, MEH.

Bonita, it sounds to me like you really want to bring this up to him. For some reason, you can't just let it go which is fine, but don't "pretend" to let it go. It will just be stuck in the back of your mind and eventually come out in a fight like, "OH YEAH?? Well, I found naked pics of your ex on the old phone you gave me, you Nasty PERV!"

No one wants that.

So you have a few options.

1. Ignore it
2. Bring it up in a joking way
3. Ask questions around the topic until he is forced to admit it to you
4. Bring it up in a more serious way, letting him know you accidentally stumbled onto them

Just figure out your strategy and go with it. I have a feeling that if you really like the guy, it's going to be water under the bridge anyway. He sounds like a really nice guy. I mean, he gave you an old phone of his when you didn't have one and you're not even dating seriously. I think finding nudie pics is just an occupational hazard in this instance.

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We, men are just plain dumb. Often we do unconsiderate stuff just cause we are not paying enough attention. Like Sardonyx said...do whatever you feel its right.

V1V, I got my opinion opener for the night too bro.

I always intended on bringing it up in a joking manner. I am not personally offended by the pics or anything I just found it halarious that he left them on there.

yeah! that would catch him wayyyy off guard. itd be cool to see his reaction. let us know how it goes haha
V1V

Ok so the moment of truth has finally come! lol

Tonight I hung out with the guy who gave me the phone w/the naked pics. We went to a restaurant with him and his 2 friends. While his two friends were talking about something and not paying attention to us I said, "oh here is your phone. thanks so much. oh and by the way, the naked pictures on there of that girl were hot." I said it with a smile and obviously joking.

He was like "what?? really??"....he either completely forgot they were on there or acted the part well. He thought they were saved to the SIM card. Anyway, it made him a little speechless. But he didn't just drop it and when he said something his friend heard him and chimed in and wanted to see the pics. It had the potential to be very bad i think because his friend made a big deal about wanting to see the pics. But I told him not to be embarrassed bc I didn't really care and just explained how I found them and thought it was funny that he left them on there by accident.

He may have been slightly embarrassed but all is well!

Glad you managed to handle it well Bonita! It shows character that he was able to deal with it and not get entirely embarressed. Unfortunately though, a lot of people aren't like that.

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Yeah but kudos to Bonita. Only a nut wouldn't be able to handle the easy way out that Bonita offered him. 'Always leave the surrounded enemy an easy path(channel) of escape.' - The art of war (Sun Tzo)

Well played.