ok i pulled my oneitis on the weekend after weeks of freezeing her out and even after she LJBF me.
so im going round her house tonight and she is cooking but she also mentioned her flat mate os going to be there but she is also my friend.

dudes any pointers or advice

Hi i'm new here..

how did it go. i'm basically in this same problem, i've been seeing "the one" for nearly 2 months but i really fucked it up and came in too strong. she's just opened the LJBF chat so i havent called her back.

i'm feeling really sick like i've screwed it up, i know she likes me but she turned me into her puppy dog which i didnt realise till it was too late.

Can anyone offer any advice, should i go round and get my stuff and try the shock tactic or just ignore her for a few weeks and see what happens?

richie

tell me how to bag my one-itis and i'll tell you anything u want bro lol

give us the process, its a common enough question on the forum, one-itis makes you nervous to play game.

Im going to go out on a line and say this here, if I am correct:

If I was in that situation I would delete the number out of my phone and just forget about it, especially since she just made you a friend. You can only reverse that if from what the mystery method calls it a "huge transformation" like rags to riches type thing, like a new car, house- that type thing. So unless you want to be some friend puppy dog thing, I suggest forgeting about her permanently.

The point of going out sarging and getting dates FBs and stuff is to not even give a shi* when this stuff happens since you always have a fail-safe.

Thats my two-cents, thats what I would do. Of course I would replay it all in my head and find out what mader her LJBF you. And make sure to fix it otherwise you go in circles, and we all know how fun that is.

RISEOFNATIONSFRK is totally right...

You have to forget about her immediately... The problem about oneitis is that you think this is the only girl that is compatible with you... which is totally incorrect...

My advice is to go out sarging and generally having a good time... This is were you will find that there are a number of HB's that is compatible with your style and personality...

Once you realise this you will not care if your oneitis just wants to be friends... For you'll have a number of HB's to choice from...

Plus it just might DHV you and show your oneitis how fun and amazing you actually are... And she might even start to chase you... You then have the power to give it a try or tell her that LJBF....

Don't get hung up on "The ONE" because there are plenty out there that could also be "The ONE"

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i read this week that by doing nothing, i.e freezing out, you can add value to yourself because you're kind of showing that you dont give a shit and you think you can do better....