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but fact is....that's a lot of looking stupid in public for awhile. Not to mention looking bad to the girl.
Pickup is a performing art. If you're not willing to push past your comfort zone to look stupid in front of people (while being fine with it), you CAN'T be a PUA.
This is why Jlaix makes his students do Karaoke. Singing on stage is very analogous to running a set.
Hm, there's a great correlation there, I'd never thought about it. I mean, I act, and I know that's been a big help to my pickup stuff in terms of image presentation and being quick on my feet, but I hadn't thought about it in terms of being used to stage fright, as it were.
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I agree that the dance floor is a trap if your trying to "open" on it. Meaning don't go out there and try to dance with girls you havent opened yet... well unless you have a pivot/pawn and know how to use her specific to that situation. The trap I see guys falling into is going out there dancing it up with a girl for a couple songs getting all hot and heavy then the song ends... the girl walks off. And Now your Dancefloor guy, it's getting pidgeonholed just like LJBF it's like LJBDP (Dance Partners)... Its hard to transition because now she closed the set on her terms, not you, and if you follow her your supplicating and showing neediness.
Then they ain't doin somethin right. I've opened many girls ON the floor, vibed for the rest of the night, and #closed. Many times with a girl I've never met before I won't even talk to her, I'll just go up, beckon, take her hand, and go to the floor. But maybe regular Top 40/R&B clubs are different. At salsa clubs, the girls come to
dance and most of them are NOT gonna have a long conversation with some stranger who walks up (because that means he's overtly trying to pick her up) when she could be out on the floor. If I prove myself on the floor, that says a lot without actually having to blabber to her and buys me a lot of interest and tells her that it's worth investing some of the next portion of her evening to sit and talk to me.