8/9: DAYGAME REPORT
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TAKEAWAYS
- I found a solution: I go to a gym that's in a pretty dense location, and I found that if I jog outside for my warm ups, I can squeeze in 3-4 sets on a run. If I'm feeling lucky, or if it was sparse on the first go, I jog again at the end of my workout in the opposite direction to cover more ground. All in all, I can get 5 sets in a relatively short amount of time. This saves soo much time, instead of purposely heading to a location just to sarge, I can get free sets in whenever I go for a run (and get a free workout too) I might join a rock gym too, so I can cover more ground on that street too in between working out. Plus it'll be something I can do with dates.
- I missed one set that I wasn't prepared for, I need to act more on instinct. That and I didn't hit on the bank teller lol
- In public places, people won't interject if you're having a positive, non-needy conversation with another woman. Keep it classy, confident, and familiar and no one will bat an eye. (unless a jelly boy comes by)
Set A: hb7 street
Open: Failed
Premise: nada
Evaluation: nada
Narrative: nada
Close: nada
<She was walking by>
"HEY! <Insert casual observation/backhanded compliment> I have to meet you, who are you?"
"Celia.. nice to meet you <walking away>"
"Wait, let me ask you, what are you doing right this second?"
"Walking away"
"Shit"
The open failed because I didn't follow her on the open. During that exchange she was walking off, so I lost power with every statement because we weren't talking shoulder to shoulder. I tried to get her to stop with me, and it failed, so she just walked off. I should've walked with her, continued the conversation, then stopped her and closed. Follow, then lead, then close.
Set B: hb6, hb7 outdoor restaraunt/patio
Open: Worked
Premise: nada
Evaluation: nada
Narrative: nada
Close: nada
Opened, BFF test, conversation went no where. I was hovering for about the first minute, I should have sat down immediately. I get the deer-in-the-headlights with two sets, I have no idea how to lead with two of them. You can't really isolate, and hitting on one of them is going to rubber band the other one to step in.. I'm still not sure how to handle this, I'll come back to it.
Set C: hb6 coffee shop
Open: Good
Premise: Good
Evaluation: Good
Narrative: Good
Close: # close, meeting later
By the books a good set, she was visiting the city for a medical term. I assumed familiarity quickly, then qualified, evaluated, and closed. We're meeting later.
Set D: hb5 fobby chick
Open: Good
Premise: Good
Evaluation: Good
Narrative: Good
Close: exited (not interested)
idk from the back she looked ok, but the face wasn't a looker and she hardly spoke a word of english. She was down, giving IOIs, etc. But it got annoying so I just left.
FEEDBACK:
- Get in practice of speaking familiar with everyone to observe the change in speech and body language with yourself and the person you're talking to.
- I'm still working on the approach anxiety, but it's getting easier, keep on it
8/9: NIGHTGAME REPORT
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TAKEAWAYS:
- Approaches are RANDOM, I can't control the state of the set, or the circumstances, my job is to make the most of the opportunity and maximize my chances of success.
- The phrase "don't fight the night" really hit home with me this go around. The more I embrace randomness and smoothly react to the situation, the better the sets go.
- The most adaptive men win. Period.
- No more than two drinks a night, gotta keep focused
- A good strategy is to stack dates on Friday and Saturday, then go out past 12:00. If you start the date at 7-8:00, that gives plenty of time to close the lay. After the date, you can hit the streets and get a pocket full of leads and/or close again the same night when everyone is selling out.
- The clubs/streets are at critical mass after 12:00.
Date: hb6 coffee shop
We met up a couple hours later, changed venues, bounced back to the apartment, movie, escalate, lay. All done in about 2 hours
I should be escalating faster, maybe at the 30 minute mark. I've seen better PUAs do it and I should move at that pace. Honestly I flounder at the start, trying to get a read on the girl and understand her "blueprint" before making any moves, but I think I can lead with the adventurous/spontaneous frame with every set I hit. If she resists it, it's something I can riff on until I get the frame control. Basically, I can assert my frame first, see how she reacts, and find out what her blueprint is the second the interaction starts.
I need to get better with the "time warp". Basically, if you've been talking with a chick for 5 minutes, you can say a statement like, "In the last 15 minutes I've gotten to know you... <blah blah>". If you say something like that and she accepts it, now you're talking like you've known her longer than you really have (again, this helps with assuming familiarity, increasing comfort without losing value). Likewise, if you've been with a girl for 30 minutes, you can insert a statement that stretches that out to 1 hour or 90 minutes. As long as she accepts that statement and continues talking with you, she's agreeing to the basis that we've been talking for how long I say. It's a free way to move things along without being try-hard. If she corrects you, just shrug your shoulders and say, "It really feels that long, don't you think?" It's hard to argue beyond that point.
A good way to establish comfort is to assume a mutual comfort frame later in the interaction. It goes something like this: "You know what I find unattractive? If someone doesn't want to hang out with me, it's the most annoying thing in the world and I have to leave. If at any point you don't want to hang out with me and I get that vibe, I'm out!
I swear, I tell from a mile away when it starts to happen. And I hope it's the same with you. It's really important to me that we've got a good vibe. As long as you understand that and we're comfortable with eachother, we can hang out
" This doubles as a false takeaway, and I think you come up even with the value proposition. Establish comfort, then express your non-neediness to bring you back to 0.
Set A: hb5, hb7 irish pub
Logistics: End of the night, getting drinks
Open: Good
Premise: Good
Evaluation: Good
Narrative: Good
Close: # closed, solid lead
This was the first time a chick's friend winged me. She was trying to get me hitched with the hb7. This was a solid set, had high value conversations, isolated her friend, built value, made plans, # closed. The solution with two/three sets is to win over the friends. Hit on all of them in a flirty, non-needy playful way and they will love it. After trust has been established, hint at the close and isolate the target.
Set B: hb6 dive bar
Logistics: IDK
Open: nada
Premise: nada
Evaluation: nada
Narrative: nada
Close: nada
At the bar, getting my H20. The chick was in front my me, why not. Cougar MILF with a small outfit. Bantered a bit, then it fizzled out, I ran out of stuff to say and didn't get the hook. I'm not sure how to do better, other than to keep talking until I hit some kind of hook. But honestly, she was too old for me and I genuinely lost interest the longer I talked.
Set C: hb6 street
Logistics: Meeting her friends at <redacted>
Open: Good
Premise: Good
Evaluation: Good
Narrative: Good
Close: # closed, solid lead
This was really good. I ran into her, opened, found out her logistics, isolated, talked a bit, bounced with her to the club (she paid my cover, I bought her a drink), isolated again, continued the interaction, moved back with her friends, made solid plans for the next day, # closed. As far as nightgame goes, this was a by-the-books set for a solid #, a solid lead. My gut feeling was she wasn't open to be closed that night, and wanted the time/comfort of day two.
Set D: hb6, hb8 street
Logistics: At a crosswalk, out-of-town, looking for food
Open: Good
Premise: nada
Evaluation: nada
Narrative: nada
Close: nada
Lots of shit from the hb8, it wasn't taking. Bad logistics, tried to close, they walked off. Sidewalk game is hit or miss, tbh they weren't buying anything and it was clear.
Set F: hb5, hb6
Logistics: On the street, on the phone
Open: Good
Premise: Good
Evaluation: Good
Narrative: Good
Close: # closed
I did good, I sat next to them as soon as I could. This didn't work, the chick next to me moved away and made a scene about it. I shrugged it off, played it cool, adopted relaxed body language and just continued the interaction. BFF test, light teasing, tried to bounce to a food venue, failed, one chick asked for my number and that was it. I'm not into these chicks and won't follow up.
Set E: hb7
Logistics: Lost puppy on the street, it didn't look good
Open: Good, resistance, but she came around
Premise: Good
Evaluation: nada
Narrative: nada
Close: nada
I'm going to be honest, this set was interrupted by strangers trying to pull this girl away. I was in the middle of the open about 1-2 minutes in and a couple (who didn't know her) literally dragged her away. It could be the time of night, the lighting at this particular crosswalk, my body language, the jerkiness of the approach in combination with her vibe that made the passing couple come over and white knight her. If I was looser, and more casual, I think this could've worked better
FEEDBACK:
- Get in practice of speaking familiar with everyone to observe the change in speech and body language with yourself and the person you're talking to.
- Find better scheduling logistics, that will make finding approaches less of a chore