I have tried everything, I'm 16 never had sex, never even had a girlfreind :/, Even though I have extream aproach anxiety I have aproached women, but all of them were met at bustops standing on there own :/ My aproach anxiety dosn't let me aproach any were else , I have tried npl anchoring, I don't have afucking clue what to do, all my problems in my life lead to women, It's my largest desire and also the only thing I don't have, Please someone help me, Btw I dress quite smartly and have been complimented many times, so it isn't my dressing code, maybe my race? , but is don't think race matters in pua, please:)

Bro, you're 16. You're already ahead of the game at your age. I didn't have sex until I was 18.

We'll work through these issues, it just takes time and practice. Lots and lots of practice. one thing I'll let you know, any girl you pick up at a busstop won't be having sex with you on the bus. So you're better using them as opener practice and testing out your sense of humour.

Also, aiming for sex will guarantee you won't get it. Work on making women laugh. If they laugh around you they see you as a fun guy. Someone that makes them feel good. A girl will only laugh if she feels comfortable with you and around you. Work on that. Think of laughter as being 1/10th sex. It needs the same things to get a laugh as to get sex. Comfort, excitement, relaxation, a connection, you need to be in control, and you need to be making them happy. If you've ever made a girl laugh, you're 1/10th of the way there. Just work on that for a bit.

You're 16 right? So you're the right age to get into a gym now. Do it and stick with it. I'm 26 and it's taken me 10 years of hard training to get to where I am physically. Loads of my mates are starting at the age of 26 and are miles behind, and always will be! Nothing comes quickly, yet all great things are worth working for.

Women do cause loads of trouble, but they probably say the same about us men.

We'll work through it.

p.s. suicide won't really help the situation. Think about it, who wants to die a virgin? You don't want that on your grave stone bro.

p.p.s. What do you mean by "is it your race that's the problem?" What race are you?

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I'm brown, I'm quite funny O_O, never had an aproach when the women wasn't laughing her tits off xD, it's alright now on the night i posted this post i went out and aproached a 9 again at the bustop cause i was getting a bus to my freinds, I can aproach women if there standing at like abustop or trainstation on thereown, apart from that My aproach anxiety jusr breaks out I know what to do This aproach anxiety is pissing me off please help me, msn? phone number something please.

Feel free to private message me any time mate.

I'm doing a 3 month celibacy test to see about the idea of self validating, instead of validation from women. Today is day 2.

I'll give you some plans of action to help increase your confidence.

1. Start in the gym. Message me and I'll send you a routine. It might seem intimidating, but trust me, everyone there started small and skinny, or fat!!! The bigger guys will actually respect you if you stick with it. But don't go to a fitness centre! Go to a hardcore bodybuilding gym!!!!

2. Get a bar job. I started as a glass collector, and did that for 2 years. It's great you get to see people interacting loads and basically can field view people in the field. Also it gets you more comfortable in crowded places.

3. Dress really smart and walk around a shopping mall on a Saturday. Trafford centre or somewhere like that. Have £200 to £500 in your pocket but don't spend it. You'll look smooth, feel smart, women will look at you, and you know you have cash. Don't let them know!!! Ever!!! But the fact that you know will make you feel good. But promise me you won't spend it, it's just an exercise in confidence, not in shopping.

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Ok seems like I shall join ze gym, I have an ectomorphic body O_O so I can't put on fat my motabolism is to fast, so not much mucel gain , I can't work in a bar my parents wont alow me but I could work in maybe a public place? like where I have to talk people right?

But thanks alot for the help man, now I know there is someone I can message my problems

Pick up is as much about brotherhood as women.

I'd recommend a sales job. Something like a mobile phone shop. I work in sales and all you do in everything in life is sales! Dating is sales. You're displaying the product and offering the benefits.

Having a certain body type isn't an issue. Train hard, train heavy, train right, eat well, sleep better, and you will grow muscle. That's a promise!

I started having sex at 18, but have done more things than I care to mention, and with more women than I can name/remember. But it all started slowly. Very slowly.

Are you at college, 6th form, working, apprenticeship or what?

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Im at manchester college openshaw , doing interactive media , so I can't really get a sales job O_O. I am good at meeting new people, but I need a place to begin

There are loads of weekend jobs available. Especially over Christmas. Just get a job in a shop like Topman or Next. Use that discount and dress smart. But one of the best things, camp it up a little and become friends with the women. Use them to learn what women like. But ALWAYS tell yourself that you're not interested in them and you only want them as friends.

Female friends are brilliant. A lesbian friend, even if butch is a great learning tool! Thats how I learnt about popping off bras and stuff like that. Christmas is a good time to get a job and style yourself. Don't follow fashion, just forge your own image.

Have you got that gym membership sorted yet? Make sure it's a hardcore gym! When you're in the gym, you're there to train, not find women. They'll distract you!!!

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nope no gym yet xD, but I'm working out at home to define my abs more, and i'm just trying to consume protine right now

Don't just get good abs mate. Abs are for when the clothes come off. Work your whole body.

What's happening on the job front?

This is an interesting question, how much spicy food do you eat? Be very careful as your sweat can easily take a certain aroma beyond normal sweat. I kid you not. I love spicy food, curry and stuff like that, but have to shower twice a day (mornings and after the gym/mma) and use plenty of antiperspirant. Not deodorant! They are totally different things.

Antipersperant stops the sweat.
Deodorant masks the smell but doesn't stop it.

Use Antipersperant and find a good aftershave.

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I am indian there is no fucking way I dont eat curry xD, Do you want to see how I look ? my dress etc

I think dress sense is over hyped a bit too much. I agree with peacock theory, wear something that makes you stand out. But not in something that embarrasses you. Sometimes dress sense can be a requirement though. I have to wear clothing by. Company called SPY because they specialise in clothing for rugby players (small waist, big thighs, that sort of thing).

How do you stand out? Any tattoos, piercings, hats, jewellery etc?

I just dress in a way that makes me look big, which isn't difficult. Muscle is the only thing that's still there when you're naked with a girl.

How tall are you?

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Before you go and get tattoos and piercings just to get women, don't!

I've had many women, and I don't have a single tattoo or piercing. I'll teach you to become the best you, that you can be.

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Well avreage adolecent size I guess, my clothes make me standout because acording to my enviroment my clothes are quite different , nothing embarsing tho, I wear eye liner every now and then.

How do you mean quite different?

Wearing a bikini in winter is quite different. Wearing a bikini at all for a guy is very different! You need to be more specific.

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