Ill try and explain the procedure I went through last night at the ceroc evening Irish informed us about. I went by myself – which is always good [women see that as confidence,and that he doesn’t need ‘help’ of a friend, and is independent]
Square brackets denote the reason behind what was said or done.
I cant remember everything from last night - although heres some of it...
I came straight from an afternoon date with a girl I met last week -that went well.
I got there late and quickly worked the whole room well in the lesson (women rotate round to each guy) giving gentle smiles and polite talk to all the women [no trying to get approval or displaying ‘excitement’ to be around so many women ]
The guy next to me was the absolute opposite – his eyes were huge, giving the girl massive smiles and big handshakes – generally showing that this is the most exciting evening of his year.[Shows desperation and that he not a man who is ‘normally’ around women]
I got all the girls names that were best looking and chatted briefly to them after to show that I can communicate confidently with various women – and the best looking ones too-including the teachers. [Building social proof]
During the class, after we had our time doing the moves, she stayed with me, when she should have moved on – I told her to “its time for you to go” and physically grabbed her shoulders and gently turned her body round to the next person and gently pushed her on. [Shows being used to being in charge over women – and will physically show it if she doesn’t respond correctly]
There was this one women who I locked onto-she was also looking over to me-that helped. After the class I came up to her – she had a small glass of wine in her hand, and said “oh dear, youre on the booze – Im not drinking tonight” [mini neg, suggesting she needs alcohol to socialise – and that I don’t. Also, suggesting that Im NOT trying to be like her – showing confidence that Im happy to state differences]
I tell her to sit down, then push her onto the seat next to her, and grab her seat [leading / getting my own way…something simple at this stage]
I cross my ankles AWAY from her, slouch slightly, lean back, shoulders facing forwards-slightly away from her, head slightly pointed in her direction [showing Im NOT trying to model her or feel the need to try to get along with her]
Topics of conversation:
Her – asking her WHY she was doing certain things she was talking about. [starts to sell herself / justify her choices]
She tells me shes an ex bikini model – I show NO reaction and change the subject. [shows Im not impressed]
I talk about my brother and his loyalty to me and my protective nature. [a woman wants a protective man – loyalty shows that people will happily do things for you]
Living in Brighton, near the sea and beauty [showing a slightly sensitive / appreciation of beauty side]
I tell her what job I do – own business [shows status / leadership / provider / independance]
Shes asks how long I have been doing ceroc – I humbly say that Im a beginner at this [not afraid to show inexperience] although I do tell her that I salsa and that I perform nationally and internationally [increase social status / proof]
I mention that I was drawn to her [don’t compliment her on her looks] because she looks like an ex girlfriend. I said Ive been lucky and had amazing girlfriends, all pretty with amazing figures – and would do anything for me. [social proof – suggesting that I have high values, attract only amazing girls and that have set standards – I only said they are pretty with amazing figures because ExBikini is pretty with a great body]
She would touch me – I would tell her “hands off” [I don’t need physical attention and do not need to know whether you like me or not]
I intermittently, while talking, touch her shoulder, then her arm ,hand,leg.[
Shes thirsty:I offer the remainder my drink – shes goes to grab it. I pull back and sip some of it. I then offer it again. She says no thank you. I offer it again – she goes to grab it, I then drink it all. [shows Im not trying to ‘buy’ her affection and attention + that Im playful]
We left and I asked her if she is in a rush. She said no. I instantly said lets go to this pub, grabbed her hand and pulled her in the nearest pub. [shows strong instant decision making and leadership – grabbing her hand increases kino / giving protection while crossing road]
In the pub-bought the first round – but told her shes getting the next. [Shes used to me making decisions now so she asks me where she should sit and shall she go and sit down]
I go to the toilet and come back over obviously climbing over her to get to my seat, as I go past, I lightly brush her face with mine. [teasing – Im in control, I could have kissed but chose not to]
She suggests that she needs to go soon. I ignore that and 10 minutes later say that I have to go and get my coat and hat [we go when I want to go, not when she needs to go]
On the tube she taps the seat next to her. I sat the other side she taps [shows that I wont jump though her hoops]
Just before she gets off the train, I tell her that she’d better be quick to get my number-I tell her my number quickly and she leaves. At this point she hasn’t ‘miss called’ me to give me her phone number-so I don’t have her number, [shows Im indifferent about whether I actually want her number]
She calls me straight away, and leaves a text message. I ignore them both – creating a slight anxiety in her that she has met this special guy and that shes got the wrong number. [possible loss increases desire – Imagine the public was told that the Mars bar was about to be taken off line. Mars bars are and ok chocolate.However,The sales will go up purely because soon they will become scarce-the scarcity / loss increases the desire, knowing that they are unlikely to taste a Mars again]
Text 9am to ex Bikini model:”Good morning [name], I missed a call from you, then no battery.So, do you touch yourself with mainly your left or right hand?” [I need to show Im not playing games so her dissonance about my not picking up the phone or returning a text does not mean Im gaming her. She may justify her mild anxiety and desire by her being stupid – I don’t want her to feel like this – understand? Notice I didn’t put a ‘wink’
in there – that shows Im not TRYING to be cheeky]
Text 9.30 from EBM to me:”Morning = a bit of both really”
Text 12pm from me to EBM”well, that’s just showing off. Now stop thinking about what our first kiss is going to be like and get back to work.”
[Brushes off comment of her trying to be sexy-staying unnerved about her apparent ‘naughty text’. Teasing. Embedding the suggestion that a) Im confident that we WILL kiss and b) she now HAS to think of us having a first kiss as she reads it – it how our brains work. Try NOT thinking of a TREE as you read the word T R E E . Never put exclamation marks or kisses in texts (they must earn the kisses). ‘Get back to work’ Shows a dominant fatherly/boss authority figure]
SO MUCH MORE happened that I was thinking while on my way back yesterday that hasn’t been included. I wasn’t going to write this post, but thought some of the points are sure to help / interest some people.
Its important to understand that I was constantly thinking of what to say to tick the boxes a women needs to see in a man, before she can trust him and be intimate with him. After a while it becomes natural, and you automatically tell stories that tick these boxes.
You need to think of great stories that ACTUALLY happened to you and memorise them, and throw them into your conversations when theyre relevant. She doesn’t know just how amazing you are or what youre capable of until you tell her – although she will be initially attracted by your body language and social status at the time of her looking at you, before talking to you for the first time.
This post was to get an idea of how simple it is if you do certain things that create attraction, then build on them, using push and pull techniques. Im sure you can convert what is said to something you can use – lifting the reasons for saying the things in the square brackets, and using your own words.
Talk to me about any of the points and Ill go into it much deeper.
Enjoy.
CHAT
