| This is a tricky situation i hope one of you could advise me on.
A year ago i met this girl at a bar (couchsurfing reunion). This was in Holland. She was really impressed becaused i spoke passable dutch even though i don´t live in holland (i just spend a few months of the year there and at that point had only been there a couple of months). But she was so impressed with me and we talked for so long that i sensed she possibly liked me. (But i wasn´t sure; at that time i knew nothing of the Game, i didnt kino her or anything, for example. I seem to remember her and having awesome conversations for like over half an hour, then i remember that a couple of her friends turned up, including a guy who she seemed to be good friends with her, or maybe more (not sure) and we still talked throughout the night but the energy changed somewhat).
Anyway, i invited her for a coffee over facebook like a total AFC and she came up with some excuse. So that was it. i basically froze her out for like a year. I got maybe 1 or 2 FB comments from her in that year, but i never commented back.
Now im back in Holland for the summer and a weird thing happens.
She writes a general comment on her FB Wall advising people to change their FB privacy settings so their info cant be hacked. I did it, it was fast and easy, and i saw it as worthwhile to comment "thanks, that was easy"-in dutch"
Then THE NEXT NIGHT i see her at the same CS reunion which is held every week here (i´ve been to maybe 10 of them since last year and she has NEVER been back). We made eye contact a couple of times, but she was talking to a guy most of the night and i was actually rolling off from girl to girl most of the night (i arrived alone, knowing hardly anyone, so i was fairly proud of myself that i was able to talk to a few women over the night, no trouble opening, some decent conversation for a while, but as usual i suck at/couldn´t escalate)
Anyway, this morning i see a comment back in FB "wow your dutch is suddenly great! we should speak some dutch at the bar!" (i think she meant where the reunion takes place
What do i do? Should i answer her comment? Should i say "sure, i´ll be there next weekend" Should i not answer just show up at the bar next weekend and hope she´s there? Should i comment to her that i wont be going there, but we could meet swhere else (isolation)? Thought the reunion is not lame, usually some interesting people, it does look slightly lame that u show up each SATURDAY NIGHT to a CS reunion; looks like u have nothing going on (though there are tons of new people every weekend who wouldnt know that) And anyways she could not show up at the place anyway...
But i dont live here so i am not hooked up at any clubs/socially proofed, beyond a couple of (female, oddly enough) friends i have here, so the reunion/ bar is a good place for me to drop by and meet people (+ i do know some faces)
To make matters more complicated, i am leaving town in a little over 2 weeks, and may not come back till mid-november, so i dont have alot of time to play with.
What would you guys do in this situation??? I really have no idea!!!
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