i hookedup with a guy who had tried in the past to get into my pants. And i thought he was attracted to me. I did like him but at the same time, i don't assume a hook up necessarily means we're going to date or get serious.

The next day he sent me a text message saying he should not have hooked up with me because he likes someone else and wants to be friends.

Honestly we weren't friends before this and i had TRIED to be this guy's friend before this. but he was a jerk to me then. He clearly didnt want to be friends with me when i tried. we never talked. never hung out. and he wouldnt even say hello to me. so we're not friends. I responded that we don't have to be friends just because we've hooked up.

i thought that was the end of it.
then he keeps texting me. i try to brush him off and he takes this to mean i am pissed and then he tells my friend what a "mistake" it was to hook up with me because afterall, he likes someone else.

And when i see him around he acts like nothing even happened.
Is this guy a jerk? Just wondering from the PUA p.o.v what do you think?

And guess what --- i know this guy gets around. do you think he does this to his other hook-ups? why can't he go away? why is he bugging me and trying to be all friendly? it was a "mistake" after all, shouldn't he be giving me space?

stop hooking up with AFC's

see whatcha get?

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"I know this guy and I really don't have any intention of hooking up with him. only because i know that he has hooked up with 2 other girls I know, and I don't want to be the next one. I'm sorry guys, i hope this doesn't offend you. I guess it's because i am currently looking for a relationship so I don't want to do the casual hookups. "

Is that the same guy?

Lol be honest

yes....
LMAO BUSTED

but in my defense, i have no expectations. and i also thought he has a lot of experience so that's why i didn't expect all this DRAMA. whats with the drama?
He's freaking emailing my friends....saying it was a mistake. wtf? Come on man...

Lol your an idiot


Your asking for more advice after you ignored our advice the first time. I told you you were going to fuck him. Smh

And he may just really regret it, and wants to tell everyone before you do.

My advice: get better at oral sex

yes i'm an idiot, but i didn't mean to ignore your advice. what was the advice?
i just want him to leave me alone. he insisted i add him on facebook. i dont want to be friends though. i want him to take a hike and never talk to me again.

this guy's not a player if he is stirring up all this drama and starting shit and creeping you out.

that's totally ultra-chode behavior.

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yeah he's a "chode" eh? I think he was HOPING i was upset.
What kind of person would do a thing like that?

a chode

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You were effected enough to make this post...

Honestly don't blame him, blame yourself. You spread your legs to someone you were unsure about. Someone who lacked respect for you. And the worse part is 95% of the guys on this forum told you not to proceed forward with this guy And he was able to get you to fuck him anyway. That sounds like a pua/player to me, if i ever seem one.
He got you, take responsibility. Don't be like most women and blame men for their errors

No, i was happy to do it. i wanted to.
I guess i just don't understand why he doesn't just nod politiely and leave me alone now. that's what i wanted. I'm sorry if i make it seem like I think it was a mistake. i actually didn't. i actually thought a lot about it.
Indeed i was affected, but i found the behavior a bit strange.

I am going to send you a private message!

This sounds, to me, like the sort of problem a lot of PUA's run into. What do you do when you just want a one night stand and she wants more?

Callie wanted some good dicking and for it to be over after breakfast, and now this guy won't go away. I'd think you'd have some more useful advice for her, after all, if you are all the players you say you are you must have run into the situation.

I had a guy who did this to me, he was married and I figured he just wanted a little action on the side but he started calling me like 5 times a day and leaving text messages and everything. He felt bad about what he'd done because he's a big Christian and he was betraying his wife and blah blah blah. Eventually I had to tell him the truth, i just wanted some easy dick and if eh didn't leave me alone I was going to go to his wife about it all and then he'd really have problems. He hasn't talked to me since.

Your a fucking genius.

i've heard this story elsewhere

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Well, it's not an uncommon story, from what I have heard. I may have told it somewhere else too.