Been texting this girl for about three days. We left each other about three years ago on bad terms, but I never fucked her. She fucked numerous friends of mine. She was always like a little sister to me. I'm 12 years older than her blah blah blah. I've told the story numerous times in that last couple of days in other threads.

So, she's coming down here this weekend driving about an hour and a half to stay with me.

Her movers haven't arrived with her furniture from another state, and I asked her if she even had a bed.

Her: I've been sleeping on an air mattress for ten days. Hating life. Lol

Me: You're not gonna want to leave.

Her: Are you getting fresh with me, sir.?


So, I guess I need a great response to convey my intentions while being confident and cocky and funny. Help me out.

don't touch the salad until it's dinertime.

So, you think she knows I'm getting fresh with her and wants the validation?

Should I just ignore her text or change the subject?

So...she banged your friends, put you in the friendzone, and you are now letting her crash at your place? You are 12 years older than her so I'll assume you're in your mid to late 30s now putting her in her mid 20s, and you are trying to get her in a sexual state via text messages?

Man I don't think its worth it. I highly doubt she'll change her mind. You two have had distance for years without no physical contact, and she didn't have physical attraction to you in the past. You are a brother to her...or a lamp, a nonsexual object. I think your time and effort would be much better spent meeting other women, who are not so much of a hassle.

As to the basic question, no, you can't escalate in a text. That requires physical contact. You can frame yourself, somewhat, in text messages, but you aren't gonna get much out of her until the two of you are next to eachother, face to face.

She gave me really mixed signals in the past. Would say she loved me, and I thought it was like a brother. I always felt I was in the friend zone, but then one night she said she would give me a hand job etc. if I drove 2 hours to see her. She's a whore I'm pretty sure. I just need a response to the text to keep it somewhat neutral until she gets here, so I can feel out the situation face to face.

Your description of her indeed makes her look like a nympho. Treat her that way. Be direct but with metaphors. If she indeed is a nympho she will understand. If she isn't what you were saying was just total bollocks and you can even neg her on the fact that she is crzay and delusional.

We both moved to the Bible Belt from California, so I responded with:

"We're in the Bible Belt, but we're not reading the Bible down here."

It's kind of ambiguous, but I thought it sounded like 'anythings possible' without sounding creepy.

Maybe that's gay, but if I'm friendzoned it's no skin off my back.

You really must not get laid often....

I completely disagree with DB_z

And your last reaponse was indeed "gay"

She challenged to see if you were being sexual and you went for a cop out answer?

Doesn't sound like the kind of guy that wants to fuck her.

She's a slut and it's completely obvious. Take it by the horns.

This is the time when your laying the foundation before the meet up. If you lay a sexual foundation, it's clear wats gonna happen when she gets there. If you lay that " I'm unsure if it's okay to be too sexual in a text message" foundation. She won't be too sure if she wants to get sexual with you.

That means we're not going to be reading the Bible we're going to be fucking.

It is a side shot, but how is it a cop out. Instead of concuring that it's gay tell me what you would have said. Would you just give a simple 'yes' to a girl asking if you're getting fresh with her?

So, she responded back to that text with, "You're fuckin nuts lol". I don't know if she's meaning I'm crazy because she would never think of that or if she just means I'm crazy period.

If I was getting laid a lot I wouldn't be asking these sorts of questions. I do just fine when I just meet girls and get the intentions out there in the beginning, but this girl is in a grey area.

I was going to follow that up with, "In other words YES I'm getting fresh."

What's a good response?

I gave you what you asked for...

An through experience with this forum and women I've learned that no one can give you the "fish" sure I could give you a killer response that'd make her fired up and excited, but once she gets there it usually doesn't work out. It's the reason 85 % of lottery winners end up broke. Even after winning a several million dollars.


I gave you an outline, the rest is one you.

So, I replied back to that with, "Oh you have no idea. Don't even pack panties."

I hope that's take it by the horns enough.

Lmao. That's a bit too descriptive bro. The simple yes was good.

Nevertheless

I'd love to know how she responded...

Looks like bad news. She responded with, "Hey now sir!!! No one is getting naked, so you just put that out of your weird ass head."

I've talked to some guys that said 90% of the time a girl says she is not sleeping with you she's full of shit and fully intends to sleep with you.

I was going to respond with, "Riiiight."

I would respond to the whole, "are you getting fresh with me Sir?" with a simple "yep", preferably with no punctuation or capitalization, like you put almost no thought to the response and just assumed that it was natural to be sexual.

If that were put her off, your intentions obviously not align with her you shouldn't hang out with her.

Given your current situation, I think you still have a chance but I would honestly be little turned off by her responses. She has to work for you too, not just the other way around.

There are tons of girls who would react in the way you desire. When one doesn't want to play along, find a mountaintop somewhere and scream at the top of your lungs "NEXT!!!!!!!!"