heres the back story for my old post

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im out here in SF and having a blast gonna head to vegas mabey in a bit too.. enjoying my "freeze out" thoroughly lol

any way my friend told me she was super upset that i wasnt there, and she was on the verge of tears because alot of ppl didnt show up to he b day dinner(which kinda sucks i wasnt trying to ruin her b day) she had a good 2nd day of her birthday though i called her left here a happy bday message(on purpose i didnt want to actually speak with her yet) she thinks shes one of the only people ive contacted since i left, so it seems "special" donno if that was a mistake or not but it felt right

ive never tried to recover from a LJBF but i think this one is worth a lil effort if it works out, but im not sure what the best path would be, i dont want to persue overtly.

whats the best way to reintroduce myself back into the picture? i dont wanna stop by the strip club while shes working, and i dont know if i should call her(peruse) and take her out on a "date".... should i do grab a chick and do a jealouly plot line 1st?

should i just wait for her to call me? she'll hear im back pretty fast im sure.

my general outline idea was to wait for her to call me and then take her to this cool lil theater that serves beer and food in the theater and has couches we can chill/cuddle on instead of the crappy movie seats. than depending on calibration "spontaneously" hit the sushi/japenise place a block away(mabey food 1st) then do a bar or my place...

i should be fine as long as i can build or rebuild attraction i think....hopefully

any advice/ideas/ advice for re-building attraction?

might just go off the cuff, but i feel like i should have an outline or ideas

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Well, she just means that now, you're not any other friend, you're a "special friend". Congratulations.

Most probably, she'll feel uncomfortable if her new special friend starts hitting on her, so all the talk of LJBF aside, you've established yourself firmly in the friends zone.

So what if you weren't there and if people didn't show up at her birthday dinner? Both of those things were beyond your control, you had no right feeling bad for that. The fact that your "freeze out" was still influenced by contact with her, tells us that it wasn't a successful one.

"Freeze outs" are supposed to give your perspective on situations with women, not a temporary pause button, so that the tape can resume playing after the set duration.

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i doubt it we were together then friends and then f buddies we've always been pretty flirty. ppl not showing up to her b day dinner was directly related to me not being there, not an exageration. and the party/after party was supposed to be at my house....me not being there=no after party
how do you figure? casue i slept with her a while and got ljbf'd?? yeah i said a dumb thing right after but that doesnt doom me to the friend zone.i havent done any "friends stuff" with her.

but thanks for the nay saying non advice

ive slept with alot of my friends and gotten over the ljbf several times, i just dont know exactly how i did it, i didnt think about what the "formula" was. its not as impossible to overcome as the community thinks. LJBF isnt a death sentance, just an obstical..........

and i am pulling down here its not like i shut down shop

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