Second year at collage, girl, same class, we've known each other since after
christmas break, I've taken her for a walk 2 month ago were we walked for 5 hours,it was nice.

She smiles a lot with me, we have similar interests and we think we have more incommon than with others from our class.

So, I have social proof, know a lot of people in our class etc. She is kinda shy in larger groups and I should be the one who escalate things.

Her huggs is pretty lame so she is quite uncomfortable with physical contact, she might even be a virgin (I am too so...).

Last time I spoke to her was while we took our walk 2 months ago, she's been abroad for the whole summer until last week.

School starts next monday, should I text her now a few days before and se how she have been doing? I am afraind it gonna be just a small friendly talk, wich can be fine.

Or should I just come to school and be talking to everyone and dont give her extra attention, kinda freeze her out?

Coming from a shy background while being in college I made lots of mistakes I learned from. The biggest problem I see coming this way is FRIENDZONE. I remember how earlier in my life when I was shy in college I used to have social proof many female friends and many cool guy friends but didn't get laid as much. The reason was simple when I met a girl I liked I used to talk with her connect with her even talk about sex with her but the fact that I was not manly enough to take action myself and escalate with her as soon as possible ruined my chances of sleeping with her. So just make sure you don't end up that way. As far as your question goes you have to decide if she deserves for you to text her. If you feel she was a good girl and deserves your text text her if you feel she doesn't don't text her. Remember your the prize as far as you are concerned and not she. Hope this helped man but keep it up. If you have any further question I'll be glad to help.

-Joe-

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

In her eyes, you're a "very nice guy". Hell, you take her on walks.

The innocence in that gesture makes me want to cry, for what we all lost when we decided to become... men who get women.

Your basic fault is for all your talk of big social proof and how you're hugging her.. the fact which you are ignoring is you're a virgin. You have ZERO experience about how to physically escalate with women.

I once almost had sex with a girl in a public park on a so-called 'walk'. You probably just smiled and talked in low voices, didn't you? And 5 HOURS? Seriously? Must've been quite the company. Otherwise, that's a spectacular waste of time if I ever saw one.

Right now, you need to start taking risks, maybe she'll never want to see you again, so what? There are always more women, even more beautiful ones than her that your eyes will be cursed with every day.

Learn how to behave in these situations. Read something like "60 Years of Challenge" or "The Escalation Ladder", the way you are right now nothing will happen for a long, long time with any woman with this sort of outlook.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

@AmazingArt

I've made that mistake too many times, not to escalate. And while time goes by I just become frustrated by the fact that I don't do anything and tha flame die down. I've been the one who've taken the initiatives, which in this case is our walk. I won't text her because I think I will fall deeper into her friendzone.

@DonDraper

The thing is, she is in my class, so first time you meet someone like that you're standing on the boarder to her friendzone. Yes, I am a virgin, don't ignoring that, it's more of something Im trying to work with. Yes, I have zero experience and my motivation is my problem. I've been here for two months, and I understand I just have to go out meet women. I've done it and my problem is the escalation.

The walk itself don't have to be a fail, but your right, I did'nt knew how to escalate and it would be better if thw walk was 10 minutes. And yes, there is more women, I just need to meet them first. "60 Years of Challenge" is, I think, above my experience but I will read both of them.

Thanks!