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PostPosted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 5:00 pm 
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Chick is single, cool as hell and friendly as fuck and even shows signs of interest in me with her actions. I took the next step and made her aware of my interest in her by telling her she's pretty and that she's cool (and other compliments) and all of the sudden one day her personality takes a 180...I say hi to her one day and she blows me off..barely looking at me. The next day she totally ignores me.

After that happened, I basically got pissed and ignored her back (also I wasn't sure how to react so I didn't do anything)...

Based on past conversations with her, she's told me she plays hard to get (at least that was her answer for not currently having a bf)

I probably won't see her for the rest of the week.

What should I do? How should I react?

I need some advice fellas!


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PostPosted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 5:37 pm 
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You were too available.. you killed the tension that was there by telling her she's pretty and cool. You then become the one chasing her and that made you less attractive in her eyes. Try reading up on push/pull and banter. It's much more fun for a girl to have the guy pretend he doesnt want the girl, then show interest, then pull back, then escalate, etc. You want to keep her wondering "omg, he's driving me nuts, does he like me?!" rather than giving your power away.

On the other hand, there's a chance she wasn't even attracted to you, and once she found out about your intentions, she bailed.

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PostPosted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 5:45 pm 
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Interesting..

Do you suggest I become unavailable once again and wait for her to show interest in at least talking to me again? Also, how should I act once she does? Should I play it off like it never happened??

Thanks for the insight


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PostPosted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 7:15 pm 
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I have a theroy on never playing the ignore game, I think that shits for girls and pussy's, it is effective sometime however it puts you back in your relationship. You want to always move foward. You want to be a leader, you don't want to follow her. The best possible solution in my opinion is to attack the problem. Call her out on it, confront the problem, don't repress you personality because some chick wants to ignore you.

With the correct frame you can approach her the next time you see her with a smile and say " so is this you playing hard to get?" she'll begin to qualify herself.


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PostPosted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:31 am 
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So a good idea would be next time I see her...if she says hello to me/or seems receptive to me should I casually say with a smile" was that you playing hard to get again"? in a joking manner.

If she doesn't come out and say hello, should I act on the matter and try to talk to her?

Also How long should I wait to actually ask her out?


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PostPosted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 2:49 pm 
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Well, her doing the whole 180 wasn't playing hard to get, it was that she was so put off by your display of interest.

She is not interested. Move on.

Also, don't respond to her again.

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