My story with this girl is way to long and complicated to post but basically 4 years ago she pretty much hurt me. About 2 months ago she randomly sent me a msg on fb and we talked for a day back and forth then It died off.. but now she started talking to me again...she's really hard to read but eventually I asked if she would go for a coffee but then she replied that shes trying to get her life back together and its complicated and said she'll have to pass.

Now I've always wondered if I started to hurt her before she ended with me....like why even reach out for me then not meet up...like it was inevitable that I would ask..she has a belief "No guy can hurt me because my dad hurt me so much when he died" I believed it at the time but now I don't think so cuz how can she fall for anybody?

Sounds like she just wanted attention dude... An you have it to her. Next time she writes you be really cold because your wonder why she's randomly messaging you. You don't have time for this because your busy fucking a lot of other girls.

Agree with Fuze.

@BNasty-Thing is,you're framing thing wrong.

You're coming off as needy.

Im a guy and I can sense you coming off as needy.

Women are 100 times more socially perceptive than guys,so she can sense your needy vibe.

Dont ask her to go for coffee.

You're ceding the power to her to turn you down.

Your tone should be suggestive.

You shoul've sid to her.

"Hey,I usually go to Caf¨¦ ***** for *** around ** pm.You can meet up with me there".

With that tone,she cannot reject you since you didnt ask her out.

You merely told her to tag along but she doesnt have to.

Make her see that you going for coffee is your routine and she's free to come along,but you'll be going regardless if she doesnt come.

But you framed it(asked)as if she doesnt accept,you wont bother go for coffee.

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My exact words were after commenting on the topic we were discussing "Hey lets get coffee it would be cool to see you and catch up" But I already replied and said no worries and u knew I'd ask eventually to meet up...so why even msg me? Then I went off abit quoting a song she knows..whatever I'm sure her reply will be a account block.. I was told shes hiding something from me which Im assuming is a guy.

I guess I could have been needy..there was point where she was replying to msgs with in 10 minutes but after I waited almost day to reply to hers, she started doing the same thing.

Stop replying to her.

Not now. Not a day from now. Not even light years from now.

There's a reason things went downhill between you two. No point in revisiting past failures. Go meet new women. Plenty of them around on the planet.

Also, everyone above is right. She's just looking for attention and you are giving it to her.

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