I recently met this girl at the club who seemed to be very interested.
she started talking to me saying how much she liked my dance. After that we started going quite deep into our conversation and i managed to number close her. at the end of the night she waved me goodbye with a nice smile, keeping EC for a long time.
I told her i would text her the day after but i couldn't resist but to text her that night to make sure i got the right number (As she stated, she never ever gives out her number).
The biggest problem is that flemish people are very close, and do not open fast enough, and i do tend to go fast cause i'm just.. me . I have a feeling she's interested but that my text games are ruining my shot.


This is how it started:

Day 1: (The night I went out)

Me: Hey! I had a good time tonight, looking forward to get to know you, goodnight & speak to you tommorow!

Her: Hey! Was nice meeting you! You seem like a really nice guy. Goodnight and do not forget about our deal! (I told her i would teach her how to dance)

Perfect responds if you ask me.

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Day 2:

Me: Hello, Did you manage to get home safe? Seems i've slept really well, had an awesome dream about last night.

Her: Haha, that must've been a nice dream! And yes, i've came home safely, thanks for asking! Did anyone else throw up last night? (We had a friend that was very very sick.. lol)

Me: Haha, luckily not. They gave their best shot before. We did have to escort them to their house though, wich was quite funny , Someone in your group that wasn't so lucky in the morning?


Her: Nah, I dont drink much alcohol anymore, my friends say i'm aggressive if i do!

Me: Wait what, you aggressive? I'd like to see that! You seem like a nice girl or am i missing something out?

Her: Mwihihi, Thats what you'll see when you get to know me better! (IoI anyone?)

Me: Well, thats what i am aiming for! Though i must say your starting to scare me! Reminds me of our deal, we should definatly make it happen!

At this point, she doesn't respond.

I wait a few hours and text her back.

Me: I was wondering, at your dance school, what kind of dances do they teach? I'm trying to find a shuffle school but i cannot find it anywhere!

Her: Well, there is alot of stuff, streetdancing, ragga, but those specialties such as house, locking or shuffle are very hard to find, I dont know where they give such lessons though, damn! If there were, i'd definatly come with you!

Me: Yeh that sucks about the more underground sort of styles, It's practically impossible to find them & learning it through internet aint the easiest thing. The good thing though is that nobody knows about it & it stays quite unique.. Us that shuffle together? that'd be so cool & dangerous at the same time!


Her: Dammmnn, I'm already imagining that, thats what i would call a party!


Me: Haha yeah, it'd be quite funny, are you going out tonight again?

Her: Not that i know off, unless you know a really good place!

Me: Well, You could go to ... But it might be a bit far for you?

Her: haha yes, my parents aren't at home and i cannot drive a car yet! But if you do go out somewhere close to where i live, feel free to let me know!

Me: Will do! Well time to get ready, going pooling soon, see you next time and have fun tonight! x

Her: Alright, have fun! x

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Day 3:

Me: Hello Joyce, how you doing over there? I'm just taking my break! x

Her: Hiya! I'm doing good, just chilling at home, are you working or what, since your having a break?


Me: No not really, just doing a combination of reading & dancing, and it's starting to get really hard! do you like to read?

Her: Not really, unless it's a really good book!

Me: I usually dont either, just like to read about psychology & such, Do you wanna have a talk on facebook? It's much easier then texts!


I didn't get a responds after that.. & thats basically how it went.
The issue i see in these texts is that she gives me clear IoI's that she wants to meet up, but when i say something that puts up a hint of, lets go out! she totally ignores it and doesn't send back.
Is there anything i did wrong, i must say that i suck balls at texting and i really need to start being more playfull, but i do not know her well enough for it to use that information.
People in Belgium do tend to see playful messages as something personal many many times, wich kinda ruins it.

The big questions are:

how should i text her, do u see any patterns she really likes to respond to?
Did i not give out enough respond value?

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She's responding well to the thoughts of you two hanging out, probably fantasizing a good deal into it.

But you haven't made a definite declaration. Pick up the initiative and find one of these dance clubs, offer to drive her if it isn't nearby her house, and set up a time you guys should go. The problem is that you're "hinting" at going out, but not making a plan to do so. Don't expect her to respond to "let's make this happen" or "why don't we plan something", etc.You should be going to a dance class, and offer to take her along.

You seem to have a point, though i'm very familiar with the whole initiative thing.
The biggest problem of all, is the combination of the mentality around here + the clubs, they are far from good. Other then that, I'd definatly ask her to join me to a club if i'm still on the right track with her.
about dance class, I sadly cannot find one that suits my style so that is not an option, though i would've loved going there since it'd be perfect for me to get to know her & share our passion (Dancing).
The big problem is that text gaming is definatly not my speciality, it has alot to do with not being able to have EC, use body language etc.
Any advice on texting? Keep it limited? Playful? Be straight forward?

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Textwise, you seem to do ok. I'd be a little more humorous/flirty. But again, I don't know the culture as intimately as you do where you are. In some cultures, the girls are ready to have sex, but if they see you flirting with them, their ASD shoots up. Others, the girls don't want as much sex, but are naturally much more flirty. That's up to your judgment. But I would push it as much as you can.

I don't like texting game anyways. A lot less personable. Text her and tell her you're going to call her at a certain time, then do so. Face to face interaction is even better, so use that call to set up something... (anything!) where you guys get together. Nothing's going to happen if you wait around for the clubs to improve or for that perfect opportunity to arise.

That is my biggest problem right now, The culture over here, especially when it comes down to young girls (She's 18 ) they will be very protective, If you try to game in a club, regardless of what you do, they will not allow you in, unless you're extremely funny and do not go to far into flirty comments. Adjusting the way i game into this culture is very.. very hard because when i went to spain, where people were open enough to accept new social contacts, my game went perfect, and i managed to meet alot of hot girls.

I'm in the same boat as you, i completely hate text gaming, It has little to no value for me but it is the only way to keep in contact with her (People even find it wierd if you call them since they'll still see you as a threat the first few weeks mostly).

Belgium is a very special country, very unique.. People are out to fight in clubs, there is little to no dancing, and socializing? Hell no, If you even go up to a girl and say something, she's turn you down like ''Ehm. I dont know you''?.. Yep, it's that bad.
I rely alot on my dancefloor gaming, and i'm happy to say i do pretty well there.

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