Reading through the forums...I've noticed that reference to women being sluts or easy is thrown around too freely.

I realize that the topic is not new...and can be quite exhaustive but really

By what standards do we gauge a woman's behavior as being sluttish if there is such a word? Who are we to judge ultimately...it really is a double standard! If a guy were to regularly sleep with women 2-3 every week...he gets a pat on the back from his friends for being such a stud...if a woman does it she's a slut.


comments???



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That's just our society my friend. However, if a girl finds out that you've been sleeping with many women (2-3 a week as you said.), they would think you're a player/man whore and you won't get a pat on the back. I think it really depends on the context, for example: If a women is a slut and her friends are slutty as well, I dont think she will get bashed on for it, where as from the society view, it will be frowned upon.

A man whore/player is also frowned upon by society anyway, just not by the male society though, lol. Honestly, I dont see what theres to think about this.

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I have grown to hate that word..."double standard". Men and Women have different expectations within society in regards to sexuality. Women are expected to leverage their sexuality to attract a quality mate. Men are expected to leverage their value to attract options. Two different games, so the actions of the players are to be judged within the context of their respective games.

Found this online...


How to Judge a Person’s Character

Posted by Marius Panzarella

“How to Judge a Person’s Character”

As a tell my readers all the time, the biggest mistake a person can make is to get into a relationship (be it business, personal, or romantic) with the wrong person. You can literally ruin your own life.

So how can you tell if a person is trouble or not? Here are some tips on how to judge a person’s character before getting involved with them.

1) Look at who their friends are
The first thing you should do is to look at who their friends are. As I have mentioned in the past, you can judge a person’s character by looking at their choice of friends. Don’t believe me? Do the “Rule of 5” test and you’ll see how true this is!

2) Look at their past actions Call me cynical, but I find that 90% of the time,
you can judge a person by looking at their past history. As I always say, “once a liar, always a liar.” A person who has gone through 17 ex-girlfriends or boyfriends is NOT going to think that YOU are “the one” for long.

3) Look at their actions, not their words
While you are judging their actions, make sure you don’t fall prey to the victim stories that people with character problems always invent for themselves. Guys,
don’t just believe ALL three of her ex-husband were abusive jerks. Ladies, don’t believe he’s “trying” to stop his bad habits.

As I always say, actions don’t lie, words do!

4) Look at how they treat other people
People with bad character tend to be self-centered. They may put you at first (more like pretend to put you at first) when they see a benefit, but as soon as they benefit is gone, they will start treating you like dirt. So rather than judging a person based on how they treat you while they still have something they want from you, judge them based on how they treat people that are not so useful to
them.

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Look for lies or exaggerations. See if their stories
match up. Use your head and turn that B.S. detector on!

6) Look for addictions
Look for addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling,
and prostitution. Many people with character problems have
one kind of dependency or another.

7) Look at their attitude towards life
Look at how the person looks at the world. See if
they like blaming the world instead of taking responsibility
for their own actions. See if they are so negative that they
resent everything and everyone around them. (Stay AWAY if
that’s the case!)

Look at their beliefs and whether their actions are congruent
with their beliefs.
Finally, look at a person’s beliefs and see if they belong to a train wreck. But don’t just look at their beliefs. Follow the “actions, not words” rule and see if their actions are CONGRUENT with their beliefs. That’s where a lot of people fail!

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Thanks,

Marius Panzarella.

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it's simple, really.

men can go around fucking anything while still conducting themselves with integrity and a sense of honor. a personal code, if you will.

when women go around shamelessly fucking anything with two legs, they usually create all sorts of drama, and lies, and fiascos, and manipulations, and coverups, and generate their own emotional baggage, and get pregnant, and have babies, and abortions, and child support, and get raped, and get aids...all in all...sleeping around is "harder" on women.

politically correct to say? hell no.

truth? fuck yes.

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I have another thing to say about this.Imagine if you are a hot babe.If you went to any random guy and asked him for sex he would simply give it to you without any effort whatsoever.While being a male,even a good looking one,not any girl will have sex with you , if you ask her,actually none of them would have sex with you if you ask them, you just gotta bring them to that stage,without asking them , and for us guys , it's actually 10 times harder than a woman to get laid.Which means that we have to work our asses of(either being a AFC and beg for a woman's sex,or learn to be PUA and still work you ass out to pick up girls,get 100 numbers,and see if any of these 100 will have sex with,though they will , but it still ain't as easy as you being hot babe)

That's why we men , praise ourself for our succes with getting laid,and women get nothing because they don't work like we do , they would get laid easily.

What a coincidence. I had a discussion about this with a mate last week.

In my opinion, the word "slut" is used too quickly. But in my opinion even a man can be a slut. It doesn't matter to me whether a girl or a man just gets anyone in bed. Both are sluts if they sleep with people too easily.

One night stands:..... sluts

Sex after a few dates..... no sluts

That's how I see it . Doesn't matter how many guys she slept with, if she does one night stands, he or she is a slut. (YES< EVEN A GUY)

And yes, I realise I just called many people on this forum a slut. But don't see it as an insult, because if you think about it... you are a bit slutty by sharing your body with all those women .

Men use the word slut when they are frustrated the popular woman finds him a beta. Translation of the word slut by men "She's fucking other guys but not me".

For me, men who are calling women sluts, are just idiots.

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I like this

I do acknowledge there are misogynistic tendencies within the community. However, this double standard you speak of is built into our programming. A male with more female options is more attractive, a woman is not. The male that does get with her (caveman) doesn't know if he is raising anothers offspring, there could be health concerns and it doesn't lend itself to high SNR in their children. Not to mention a large portion of a females survival and replication value is based on social status. This behavior has never been looked on as desirable and shows possible mental health issues thus lowering her even further. It isn't fair ladies, but life isn't fair and you can't deny biology.

I think it can all be summed up with a saying back home: "Why buy the cow if you get milk free?"

That said: I think some men in the community would do well (as would their game) if they remembered whoever she is, that is someones daughter they're gaming. A true alpha doesn't crush those under him, he lifts them up.

its almost always a woman on woman issue. Women call other women sluts, women are paranoid about other women callin and think of them as sluts--we rarely come into the equation,so just leave them to it,whatever.

Well, I don't really use the term slut negatively. A whore is someone who has sex for profit, and I'm not a big fan of that. A slut is someone who enjoys sex whether its just for physical pleasure or emotional connection. I don't care who she slept with before or who she will sleep with after, but congrats to her on suckin my dick too.

A key that opens any lock is a master key.

A lock that is opened with any key is .... a shitty lock.