heres some info and the situation.

1) i have a party house that alot of ppl (20-60ppl) come back to after the club and we go till 10 am frequently on thurs-sunday
2) i sell party favors to most of the club and at my house
3) i'm pretty well know around the towns club scene, get in the clubs free with who ever i bring / bypass any lines, free drinks at the main club in town, ect

so... i dont wanna sound cocky or what ever...... but, im kinda a big deal lol j/k.....kinda

any way i go out alot and kick it and flirt with alot of girls(kick it personally with alot of strippers), alot of hot girls always around me, fairly easy to get laid at will...... but theres this on girl i wasnt dating but we were exclusively sleeping together for a month or so (shes hot, hottest dancer at the strip club)

it started out she would come to my after partys and hang around and end up in my bed. she also calls me when she got off work at 230am and would come over and kick it just us. she tried to sleep with me 1st and i turned he down and told her she was too faded(she was and i am a "good" guy). we just fooled around a bit. and then did it sober in the morning
then for about a month it was all good every one knew we were kinda together but not dating
she ended up getting either jealous of on of the other girls who was my friend(who was trying to sleep with me but i never did until later) or started to have "to strong of feelings for me". i ended up asking her to date me and she was saying she "doesnt want to fall for any one blah blah blah" and then she kinda vanished for 2 weeks.

during the 2 weeeks i ended up fooling around with the girl she was jealous of.(i introduced them before i sleept with either of them and there pretty good friends) and she started comming back around as a friend.

i was ok with it cause she is a fun and hot girl who i dont mind being friends with. well we ended up fooling around now and then, and i talked to her last night while we were kinda drunk and rolling i was starting to seduce again and got LJBF'd and that she didnt want to mess up the relation ship

now normally i wouldnt care but
A) she is one of the, or THEE best lay i have ever had and
B) she is legit a honest fun person, who isnt a "stereotypical stripper" doesnt ask for free stuff doesnt mooch brings bottles over to share, pays for her own stuff, cooks me dinner ect ect ect

and in the conversation i said something along the "i wont do anything you dont want me to, if you dont want me to kiss you, i wont try ever again, it'll be all on you to kiss me, and make your advance's on me"

this was last night and i havent talked to her since.... her birthday is in 7 days and i was gonna throw a stripper party for her and put the poll up in the living room again and have a awesome theme'd invite only party/after-party... and we have been planning it for a few weeks now.... but now i am thinking about dipping to my buddys house in a difffernt city for a few weeks and just cutting all contact with my town for a lil while not letting anyone know im leaving just vanish for a while. due to the fact that im a lil hurt by the LJBF from her and i think she sensed it :/ and just to get clean and sober and stop selling (i was going to stop anyway before the LJBF )

(she was around before the party favors and i didn't pick her up from the strip club)

its been about 15 hours since last contact. after the ljbf she hung around and cuddled and finished watching a movie before bouncing home


so the question i have is what would be the best way to get her to persue me?

if i do the party theres a good chance of B-day sex..... but it could backfire on me and make me seem try hard and i dont want to persue her openly

if i leave the party will still happen somewhere(not as big or good) and ill be gone for the B day sex and some one else gets it.... witch is ok i guess... ill text here or call her around 3-4 am and wish her a happy bday after not talking to any one for a week and atleast put me in her thoughts and get ppl talking about me casue i'll be the topic for a while if she tells ppl i called after i been MIA for a week and make her feel a lil special that shes the only person I've contacted.

im looking for some input,advice or other options




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Way to shoot your own feet off. Bravo.

She wanted you to say that. She wanted you to submit to her power and to keep her status quo.

At that point you just had to tell her that you cannot ever be friends with her, there are always feelings which are there between you two and it's either something more or nothing. She can make her choice with those options.

There is no way to recover from this. Not any which I can see. Go disappear for two weeks, forget her party. Something that radical might, just might maker her reconsider her stance regarding you two.

For now, there's no light at the end of this tunnel you constructed.

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Short, kind of confusing reading, i think maybe she knows you are too much of a player, and she may want a boyfriend...she may be scare of getting hurt, maybe she may that decision, may be too difficult to recover, not impossible...

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yeah thats what i thought about 2 min after i said it hahaha... i'll just break contact for a lil bit then come back and try get some jealousy going. shouldnt be that difficult to do that since theres a girl she dislikes that has been hittin me up and she was telling me that shes "just trouble" and a horrible person ect ect ect.... sounds like a good candidate to me.