So I had met a girl months ago who looked absolutely stunning; probably one of the most naturally beautiful girls i've ever seen. She had a boyfriend at the time so I never completely got to meet her or know her. I've just come across her facebook recently and added her. She's single now! So I got to messaging her and she somewhat remembered me. Like I say we only briefly met, not even sure if we had gotten each others names the first time. Anyways, I randomly just saw her out the other night so I got to see her in person and talk for a bit. I messaged her later on that night and basically told her how gorgeous i thought she was and that I'd love to hang out sometime and gave her my number. She responded saying how she could totally see us getting along and was really glad to have met me for real...however, she wanted to let me know up front that she has just started seeing some guy. They aren't officially together, but she says she likes him...

So I guess the question I have is what do I do now? I can't even explain the giddy excitement I've had over finally finding this girl after all these months and getting my hopes up for her. Now I feel pretty crushed..but should I? I mean is she technically still fair game? I've been single for almost 4 years now. Not because I can't get girls, just that getting through college life being single was just more stress-free. But now I'm really feeling the urge to have someone in my life. And this girl just feels really really right. I know there's plenty of fish in the sea blah blah blah but when you know someone is right you just know. I mean I like to think that I'm a pretty charming guy, and don't usually have trouble with girls liking me so I feel like if I could just get some time with her maybe something more could develop... Any suggestions??

You've shown too much interest too soon, my good man. It's not surprising she would throw in the "I've just started seeing someone" shit test at you. A few reasons:

-You added her on facebook without even being sure she knew your name. Now I can understand wanting to add her since it sounds like the only way you could get in touch, but often girls find this to be a bit creepy. It's a shame you didn't just stay your hand until you guys met the second time; you could have run picture perfect game from that point on (with an opener already there for you-- you guys have met before!)

-You didn't get her phone number when you ran into her in real life. You went back to fb messaging.

-You told her she was gorgeous (generic compliment) and gave her your number before attraction had been established.

Doing all these things with any attractive girl with options will land you immediately into the friend zone (at best). She's going to ask herself, "Why is he putting so much effort into a girl he hardly knows? He told me I'm gorgeous. He must be after sex."

There are ways to handle the "I'm seeing someone" shit test (ignoring it being my favorite option, at least in this context), but I'm afraid you're in trouble no matter what you say at this point. She sees you as the one chasing her. And she's not reciprocating any feelings.

It sounds like you have a great enthusiasm for picking up girls. So I would suggest you move on from this one and go out and pick them up. Day game, night game, whatever your milieu. But you need to apply the correct principles. Adding a girl who barely knows you via facebook, not getting her number when you meet her in real life, and then showering her with compliments she's heard a million times is what AFCs do. Now that you're aware of game, you know better.