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hi guys
I can't be upfront with her because I have been extremely nice with her...extremely nice. Like some times I don't charge her....or when I have something to do, I change my schedule because of her...I have been too nice.
now why is this a problem? because nobody is this nice and she probably has this question in her mind: "why is he so nice?"
and the minute I say anything about how i like her everything will "start to make sense"...she will say "uh hu! that's why this guy has been so nice all this time. he just wants sex. what a creep"
I feel like she has a tough life being a single mom. so far I have not been very open with her...she texts, she comes over, she leaves...we dont talk much.
I just want her to feel comfortable around me. I think she doesn't feel comfortable because I am very serious around her.
should I ask her something like "is your ex-husband a douchebag?" so she opens up and starts talking about her problems?
at the same time, I dont want to ask questions that are too personal. today before she came over she said she was going to the gym and then to work... I was going to ask her "where do you work" or "how many times a week do you go to the gym" "which gym do you go to?" but I dont want to appear creepy...it's none of my business which gym she goes to, you know?
I think I literally burnt my eyes by reading this.
I think you and her want very different things, she wants a MAN. You're a scared child.