After some short flirts, I finally met a fairly matched challenge.
Target: flirty girl, tries to be a femme fatale. In fact she's a very insecure person, ex cheated on her, so she has a "trauma". She's a hb8.

We went out a couple of times, very close body contact, escalation through the roof (sex on the dance floor). The last time she told me that ending up in bed would be a stupid move for her. And she was very open in an after club, she talked about what happened with her ex and how he messed up her mind. She messaged me regularly until she had to go abroad. Now she's back, and apparently she does the waiting game, only teased me once that she went out without me.

So, as I do have a reputation, she does not want to feel that she's not in control of things. And I always wait until they come to me after initial take off.

Any hints how to deal with this girl who clearly tries to protect herself from bad people like me?

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You can't buy sophistication.

Seriously, this girl sounds messed up.
Don't be an ass to her...... Leave the poor girl alone.

I'm not interested in a one night stand. This time my intentions are honorable (not a shag and run).

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You can't buy sophistication.

Well, if you want to do anything with her, then you have to show her you're not all "bad".. you should project some deeper good in you than what most people see.

Once you show her some sort of vulnerability (even fake) and respect towards her, she'll hand herself over to you.

The basic idea behind this pick up is to make her feel the opposite of what she felt when her ex cheated on her. Those feelings do not go away fast.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

The problem with the "deeper good" is that it is boring. Or am I wrong?

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You can't buy sophistication.

Says who?

The whole reason for the women going after bad boys thing, is that they all believe that inside the man is something better. That he is not what he seems to be. They want to read the book beyond the cover.

I thought that was pretty common knowledge by now.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

That worked before, I agree. That's the reason she already told me things. I'll continue to combine bad guy with sensitive guy. Good advice, mr. Draper.

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You can't buy sophistication.

I sorta disagree with don here.

I think you should just show her that your comfortable with you reputation. You except responsibility an you "were" in fact that guy at a point. I find when i accpet girls labling me as a player they become that much more attracted to me. When i dispute it the attraction kind of fades.

It then becomes about her seducing you by putting you on a leash. She wants to see if she can tie you down,

when a they say, " i can tell your a player" . i reply with, " i dont like that word, but i guess i can see why you 'think' that" - leave it a mystery but dont completely dispute there accusations

She never seduced me, I was the assertive side all the time. Normally, in her case, it is the other way around, because she deals with guys who can be easily impressed. She only wants guys who can seduce her, but at the same time she knows it can be very risky. She's doing the femme fatale with low risk men.

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You can't buy sophistication.