Hi Guys,

Just came back from a date. Went for a movie then coffee. I was cocky and funny atleast tried Wink. Kinoing every now and then. Played it cool. But no IOIs from the girl such as touching hair or pupil dilation or kino. But did get verbal IOIs a few times. Also, I noticed mirroring from the girl. I DLVed a bit sometimes as I felt always DHVing is not a good sign. Finally, when we were walking back to her car, she saw me using the mouth freshner Laughing . So, she thought that I want to kiss her, obviously, I thought atleast, I should give her a peck on the cheek. Once we neared her car, she said "I had a good time and let me give you a hug". She patted on my back so hug was not intimate (body language book Smile ). But she was laughing at my lame jokes the whole 2 hours we spent outside the coffee shop. When I asked "May be we should hangout again", she said "May be"........

So, verdict is "Game Over" Laughing or I should send her a message saying "I had a good time and if she wants, we can hangout again". If the latter, when should I send the message. Tonight, tomorrow or its not gonna work!

Advice please.

Thanks in advance!

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See, ya are what ya are in this world. That's either one of two things: Either you're somebody, or you ain't nobody.

Well, hate to say it but it looks like she just didn't feel the same amount of attraction towards you, that you did towards her.

Also, movie dates should be BANNED unless you are going to the theater with making out in your mind. Don't do those. Take the women elsewhere.

Still, if there is an opportunity of salvation a text of "I had a nice time last night." would just get it for you.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

BAH!!! NEVER DO MOVIES! they say two things 1. I'm unoriginal and 2. I cant hold a convo soooooo......watch this...


And from a body language stand point...the pat on the back is bad news a firm hold is acceptance/safety, a firm hold with grip of the hands in arousal, a firm hold and a pat is normally a sign of doubt. Shoot the I had fun text and move on.


never do dinner and/or movie dates, there lame, go play some air hokey or something if you cant hold a convo and if you can get out and do something where you can talk get to know each other and run a little game.

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

Thanks Guys. She was british! I thought, it would be great to FC an english girl. But she works in a church. I wonder, how soon I could have FCed her , probably in a year or something . I think, I am pretty good in reading BL of girls nowadays. I didn't send her a text after the date. I knew, it was game over. So, Next!

Here is my analysis (My best guesses, what went wrong) -

Mistake 1 - I just opened up my whole fucking life. There was no intrigue left.

Mistake 2 - I was not nervous but I didn't escalate with an intention of FClosing. I just kinoed her a few times. So, she might have thought that I won't be able to FC later probably.

Mistake 3 - Movie date. From now on I will go for drinks. I will buy 1 drink for her or 2 at most. Then try to K close. If on a coffee date, set myself a time say 1 hour and bail out. In every movie date, I waste around $25.

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See, ya are what ya are in this world. That's either one of two things: Either you're somebody, or you ain't nobody.

Yea do it

Do what these guys tell you. A text saying you had a good time will suffice. You're going to have to stop talking to this girl for a while if you want to get her to be interested in you. During this time, learn from your mistakes and approach from a different angle.

Oh, and about your #3, I wouldn't even think about buying her drinks. If you want to be that guy though, tell her that she's buying the next round.

I had a similar experience recently. I believe that when you don't escalate with a girl she senses that there must be something wrong with her so she doesn't want to communicate with you any longer as to protect herself. I would not escalating was your biggest failing.