ask a friend of the girl you like if she (the girl you like) likes you?
(If you too are good friends with the girl you are asking)

And what is a good way of going about this? Asking does 'X' like me i assume is not a good way of going about it?

I know a lot of guys do to get background info on a girl, but isn't it easier to just do it yourself? you'll get a lot more respect just manning up and running some game.

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NO brother--she will tell her--and the target will think you told her friend knowing that she would tell her rather than you saying it..it will come across as weak

High five brother

Girls talk and few have tact when it comes to shit like this...shit or get off the pot man, get out and do it.

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

Come on, that will send her the kind of message you never want to put across.

Just go up to her and tell her, "I am attracted to you. Figured I'd come clean about it."

Keep it to the point. No compliments, no reasons, nothing.

You HAVE to keep your power,MAN.

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Thanks for the quick reply guys.

Basically my reason for asking is because i met a girl last year on holiday and have since kept in touch on fb and letters.

This summer i was inter-railing again and was in her city for a few days and we met up had a good day together with plenty of kino and flirting/teasing, but at the end of the day we just had a long hug.

She lives about 3hours by plane away and is moving to another country soon as part of her university course for 4months and i start a years placement next month in my city. So the only method of communication i have is still through email and letters.

This isn't exactly an ideal medium of communication, but i want to find out how she feels about me, but i know there are a lot of obstacles in the way.

So can you suggest a way i could go about this? How can i escalate using the two communication mediums i have?

(I understand that i should not get too attached to this girl and i will be going out regularly with friends on nights out to meet new people as well)

I agree with you that this is what i have to do. But because she is far away i can only do it through email or a letter and do not know if this will have the same effect? I will be keeping in constant contact with her, so i imagine the sooner the better?

Any other advise you can give me on this situation? lol

Try speaking to her on the phone.

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