ok so have a target SPAM hb8 who is very fun to talk to, thinking about LTR because she is very fun/funny,

so here is the problem, day 1, hung out for like 3 hours, met her at her work, got her number, flirted around hit on her a bit, did some of the regular shit i always do

go for day 2, she flakes, freezed her out 2 weeks, started texting again, got her out for day 2,

day 2 tryed to pull her home right away, and failed, went to mall, had a shopping date, hit on her hard, made out in change room, end of date, challenged her on being scared to go to my house etc. she invites herself over to my house for the next day

she then flakes on house date, i begin freeze out again, she re-contacts me to go watch transformers, i flaked on her, finish freeze out,

contact her ask her out for drinks, she says she has work, i go non-responsive, she double texts this to me

KKK how about this ill text u when i'm not doing anything cause i don't want us to make plans and something comes up

how can i play this off, without playing into this she controls the meets type shit?
if i say ok to her next meet, then all of a sudden she flakes, its like im fucked over,
how ever if i keep flaking she is probably going to think im not interested now or something silly,

PLZ HELP!!

"Sure. Whatever suits you. Can't make promises about my schedule though."

Like a cat string, you give her an inch and take it back by a mile.

Don't show her you're too impressed by her. Just be indifferent.

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thx for the answer don, but this was a day ago, i just didn't respond, i more want advice on how to handle the situation were she is trying to control the meets, etc.

i just don't want this to turn into, her inviting me out, i accept then she flakes, and i lose value for being a chump, she seems extremely sexually interested, but at the same time nervous

Well, I guess you'll just have to take the control back.

Start by telling her that this is the date and time you want to see her and that you'll pick her up. If she says that you shouldn't and you can't and all that, just tell her that okay, you'll wait but you cannot promise that you'll be going home alone at the end of the night.

She's just another woman to you, when she gets this message it will sober her up. Right now, she has some notion of how much she means to you (and it seems like a fair much too). Remove that from her mind. She is EXPENDABLE, even if she isn't, you should give her that idea.

People tend to become a bit more sincere, when they are reminded of their worth or lack there of. That's been my experience.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

This one phrase says it all. You got your care face on. I am in the same boat currently...mine is a tad different. However, I think just not giving a shit is the way to go. Honestly, no matter how fun/funny she is there is a reason she is single and, there are other fun/funny women out there, so, fuck it, you can't play a player.

Instead of freezing her and giving her control ect. Do the "im havin a pizza party at my house, wear something cute" bit. When she says she might be busy just be like "i cant txt back im busy eating the pizza". If she flakes just do the "man to bad you missed that party that was so much fun!" bit. Let her know you dont give a f- if she goes or not, if you have to give up a day2 to get a lifetime more of em, its a good sacrifice. (its not unlike girls to flake, i have a girl that initiates everyday and tells me she likes me without me saying it back, and she doesnt show up to some of my parties. That was to show that even if they like you they dont always have to go out with you)