Hey guys whats up, so long story short i have been sleeping with this girl for +-6 months (she is actually the love of my lifes' sister, but thats another story for another day!). She recently went away for a month, and while she was away she asked me if i had hooked up with anyone. I have a no lying policy (unless she asks how many girls i have slept with), and so i admitted i had hooked up with other girls! She got back over the weekend, we hooked up and slept together. Now 2 days later, she has ended things with me

Basically she cant handle the fact that I have no intentions of things progressing at the moment and that I hook up with other girls while we are together, even though I made my intentions clear to her from the start. I recently attended an Adam Lyons bootcamp where he explained that this is a common phenomenon! He also mentioned various things to say to a girl in this very situation, that will enhance your chances of sleeping with her for another 6 months. I didnt write these things down and cant remember! haha

I am not just using her for sex, we have an amazing connection and I do have emotions towards her. I am currently on an incredible journey in the PUA world and for selfish reasons have chosen not to date her. Please guys your help as to what to say to her would be much appreciated!

Peace and love

Get a new ftf! Jk 6 months actually isn't to bad considering how emotionally attached girls get. Longest I've gone is a year with a ftf and at the point you're in I just told her straight up that we have a connection, i really like you, i'm young and just need to help find myself, but just remember you'll always come first.

I believe if i remember correctly it was the knowing that she'll always come before the other girls that got her to stay. Kinda fuzzy, as right now i'm not trying to hold on to ftfs. Hope this helps!

_________________
Learn how I picked up hundreds of girls online without leaving home! Click on the link for your free guide, 7 Secrets to Online Attraction!
http://attractionkings.com

I had this same sort of problem.

Sleeping around isn't a bad thing, unless the girl already thinks that you don't treat her affectionately enough. What's missing in your relationship is emotion. Girls seek monogamy because it brings emotion to the table, and makes the sex a lot hotter for them.

So, be more affectionate and emotional with your girls. Don't be afraid to show it.

_________________
Don't hate, just dominate.

I can relate because every gf that I've had in the past have been open-relationships. I now also have a no lying policy, and I admit it takes a bit of game to keep the girl around. In the end, it's completely worth it because the drama-free, honest relationship is worth it's weight in gold.

In saying this, establish the frame that she's special, and different from all the other girls (and you're not lying because there are emotions involved) Make sure to set rules for her, and your conduct so that you can keep it healthy.

btw - you mentioned attending a bootcamp recently, and I wanted to know about your experience?

Where your game has gone to now, compared to before. Was it worth it? Anything you'd like to share because I'm attending my first bootcamp in a couple weeks, and I want to know if this will get me where I want to go? (get this area of my life handled)

Thanks

_________________
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced."

- Soren Kierkegaard

The bootcamp I attended was the first one in Africa (I live in South Africa) so I made sure I didnt miss it.. It was held by PUA Training and was taught by Adam Lyons, his wife Amanda and another trainer named Cary. It is honesty worth every cent IF you push yourself. They are extremely helpful especially in field. Within the first hour, I had opened more sets than i had in my entire life.

I loved it because they teach it to you in a non- routine, natural way. They also gave me a deep understanding of interactions and I can now identify at any point where I went wrong if a set doesnt work out. Its so worth it but only if you push yourself and ask them to push you too.

_________________
www.puasa.co.za

Awesome, thanks mongyboi!

I have a feeling I'll do just fine. (I'm usually the guy at the end of the night saying "one more approach, one more kiss...)

_________________
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced."

- Soren Kierkegaard

Guys just wanted to let you know you're advice really worked! I gave her 75% pull (very AFC at times ) and 25% push! I convinced her to go for drinks, and next thing i knew we were on my bed watching the movie 'Spread' (watch it!!!) and next thing i knew i got my f-close.... so just wanted to say thank you

_________________
www.puasa.co.za

If she can't handle the deal, she's gots to go!