Im not sure if this should be posted in sticking points, but right now i have this problem of becomming emotionally invested in girls i sleep with, i start to get really into them more and more until the point where i am downright needy, i just want to spend all my time with them, it just seems to grow, i can play the part of indifference very easy early on, and lead, but when i get invested, i start doing what she wants, and just want to be around her all the time until it ends, anyone have similiar experiences and how have you dealt with this?

have multiple girls at once

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just a inner game issue .. for most guys it takes like 10 years to eradicate the behaviour of approval seeking and still even then i see guys having subtle ways of seeking approval....

it's very hard to do .. especially if you face manipulative woman, the best hing to do is doing the counter-intuitive.. doing the opposite of what you normally do.

in the end it's still a inner game issue. accept it .. and change it everytime you go through it.

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that is great for when your single, but i have this problem when invested in LTR's, and i don't cheat

I don't think it's wrong to invest "a little more" into relationships if you feel that they have the potential to go somewhere.

Now, however, if the other person does not feel that way, then it becomes a problem. If you ever get too attached to one girl, start distracting yourself.. play a sport, read a book, watch a movie, go for a long walk without your mobile and all that. Your mind just needs another topic to replace thoughts of her, if you can provide that you will be fine.

Don't rationalize "interacting with other women" with "cheating" when you aren't even in a relationship. Start disconnecting yourself from the consequences of your actions, that might give you a little control about how you feel. Worked for me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Have your own life. The biggest reason that this happens, and it has happend to me, is that you tend to make the girl too big a part of your life. The most she should be is half, and even that I'm talking about like marriage-type deals where you balance each of your needs. In the extreme case, its an issue of a guy needing the girlfriend to be around constantly to validate his worth as a person. Sometimes though it is just an issue of enjoying time with a girl so much that you kinda forget that you are absolutely allowed to have your own life.

So just like a breakup, I dodge neediness by doing my own thing. Whether its going to a bar with a buddy, writing an article to try to get published in a journal, or starting a massive online gaming weekend, I do things that I enjoy with friends and by myself. If you lose track of how awesome life can be when she's not around, you start counting the minutes since your last text.