I think I could narrow down most of my sticking points resulting from me completely not understanding and not being able to create attraction.

The part after the opener where you must get her interested, so she'll chase or continue to give you her attention and comply with your requests like Day 2s and such. Whatever you want to call that.

I know that attraction is mysterious, if you could define it or "solve" it, this site wouldn't even be necessary.

Yet it is so very important. It is the difference between a newbie who opens, then skips to qualification or worse, skips to comfort, getting the friends zone in return.

Anyway, I'd like advice on what it is, and how one goes about getting it from women with real life examples.

I'm confused because every guru seems to have a totally different concept of it. From Mystery (attraction isn't a choice, just have to activate one of the "attraction switches) to 60 Years of Challenge (Kino creates attraction), to the current Natural viewpoint on it (attraction is simply hooked interest), and more.

Every gurus concept is completely different, trying to overcome this is tough with such conflicting info.

I also find it hard to mix and match the methods out there. But they have some things in comon.

1) Be confident

i sort of think of it like this, there is a balance,

how much she likes you as person / looks up to you

how comfortable she is with you

how horny you can make her, and how often (do you get sexual etc. kino etc.)

how much good looks/money/status do you have

how much you lead her so she doesn't have to take responsibility

if the answer to most of these questions for you is *very much*, then you are probably doing well

if you keep getting LJBF you are probably lacking in either the she likes you as a person category or the how horny category

Allright, sometimes this forum only posts part of my message. Other people that have this problem?

however:

Be confident. Don't be shaky, Be a leader.

2 ) Show that you can handle her, your environement. You shouldn't be worrying about yourself. You are the leader remember?

All the methods convey this in some way. They all say that their methods are different, but girls just like confident guys. so CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE.