| Many times, as we start learning Game or anything new that we are passionate about, we get so excited about this wonderful new world of possibilities and we want to share it with our friends and family. Very quickly we find many of the people closest to us, not only not being excited about it like we are, but they go on to us telling us how we shouldn’t be trying to learn this stuff at all. They don’t want us to change, they don’t want to change themselves, and every time you talk about it they seem to get more and more upset.
There is a part in the Bible where Jesus says, "Don't cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you." When you understand this analogy, it pertains to the above situation, and can be very powerful regardless of your faith. I wanted to share this with my brothers here because I know that you will all relate to it and hopefully it will bring greater understanding when you face these situations again going foreword.
Lets think about this literally first. The problem with giving pigs pearls is that they don't care about them. If you were a farmer, what the pigs want from you is food right? You like your pearls, you see the value in them, but the pigs can't appreciate them at all. Like the passage says, the pigs will likely stomp them into the mud and be angry with you because that's not what they want from you. They want food, and if you continue to only give them pearls, they will still need to eat and will eventually turn on you and tear you to pieces so they can eat. So when you do this, you de-value your pearls and worsen your relationship with the pigs to the point where they could want to tear you apart.
Now, let’s break down the parts of this passage to better understand it and how it relates to you…
First, what are the pearls?
You have things in your life that are pearls for you. Your pearl may be game, it may be religion, it may be art, it may be what you learned in school, it may be foot ball, it may be whatever. The point is that the pearls are things that you highly value and you probably had to work hard to obtain.
So, who or what are the pigs?
The pigs are people who don't care about whatever your pearls are. The pigs expect to get from you the same thing they’ve always gotten and your relationship with them is built around that.
Maybe it's an old friend from school who you start to talk about Game with, and you know he can use the knowledge, you know how much it’s helped you, and you know what it could do for him. But when you tell him about it, he gets all upset and defensive, and tries to convince you that you shouldn't waist your time with it.
It's not that your pig friend is a bad guy, it's not that there is anything wrong with you or your pearls, it's just that he doesn’t appreciate them, and he liked you the way you were. Your new pearls are not what he wants from you and the more you try shoving them down his thought, the worse your relationship will become until eventually he will turn on you. He wants you to be who you’ve always been because he likes that guy. Any change that you start that he isn’t excited about for himself threatens your relationship because as you change he looses that friend that he had and liked. So the more you talk about your changing the harder he fights to keep you the way you were so he can keep his friend.
I’m not saying that your pig friends will always stay as pigs, but they may. If they are to learn to appreciate your pearls, they will have to do it on their own. If they eventually come and start asking you about your pearls because they’ve seen the change in your life and they want it for themselves, now you know that they are on their way to being open to what you have to share with them. The key here is that it needs to be their idea first.
Or you could try to talk about the individual aspects of Game like psychology, group dynamics, how attraction works, the differences between men and women, and other sub topics that they might be interested in while avoiding potentially negative hot words like Game or Pick Up. When you try this approach you might find they already have interest in one of these sub topics and you can build from there.
Instead of waiting for your friends to un-pig themselves, it's important to find people who are actually interested in your pearls, for themselves, so you can share your pearls with them. This way, you can enjoy them together instead of having to try to convince your pig friends of how great your pearls are and probably never getting anywhere.
And that my friends, is why we are all here. We are here to talk to others who share a passion about this pearl that we call Game. We are here to be excited for each other, support each other, encourage each other, and help each other in ways that the AFC swine in your life will never be able to do.
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