Hey guys im having issues with a girl I met about 2 months ago. Things were going really well at first and it was quite obvious that there was an attraction between us. After a bit, I decided to ask her on a date. Went quite well and she said she enjoyed it and would love to do it again. I meant to do it again but we both got busy with finals and family vacations and things so we didnt see each other for about 2-3 weeks.

Now about a week ago we were chatting on fb and we got talking and she tells me she doesnt want to date anyone right now because she is busy and just doesnt want the added stress. Now, when i text her or try and talk to her, her interest level in me just isnt what it was and her replies are usually delayed and short.

Shortly after, we both had to go to a swim meet. During the time, we kinda started flirting again and i felt like she was still interested in me but obviously not quite to the level like before. She's done with her swimming and stuff in a couple weeks which means she wont be very busy afterward but obviously during the time we havent seen each other and her interest has declined so she ma not even feel like being in a relationship anyway. Is there something you recommend so that I can kinda get her interested again in the next week or two?

Freeze her out. At the swim meet I wouldn't even have looked at her. You seem like a nice guy, but do this and she'll be back on your balls. If not it was a lost cause anyways. Never ever chase.

I'm assuming you didn't kiss close on the 1st date or f*ck close?

Happens a lot which is why i like to kiss close bare minimum or f*ck close if I can. If you atleast kiss close for some reason most girls grow an emotional attachment to you and won't stop bothering you.

Also add more detail please like if you established dhv, neg'd her. It sounds like she's running the show.

Anyways hope this helps. good luck!

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yes ive established dhv in our chats (she compliments me says im rly smart and very interesting) and ya i neg a lot (she laughs, and shes one of few girls who neg me back properly and we always end up making each other laugh).

As for physical stuff, i didnt kiss close even though i do usually. She's one of those ive never had a bf or dated before types and she didnt even want to hug me at first so i went for a hug close. It went well beacase up until a few weeks ago, she often would initiate further hugs.

I think what I will do is freeze her out for a week or two until shes done her swimming and then invite her somewhere with a group and she doesnt feel the pressure of a date and hopefully that will have her chasing me again.

In cases like this I like to play a lets be friends gambit, this lets her guard down a little and re opens for unpressured hangouts. Now this works for me but, I'm really good at building attraction. I would only recommend that if you know you can rebuild quickly because it's only going to give you a small amount of time with her until your in the true friend zone.

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This is her way of blowing you off... She flirts in person because she feels like you could have been a cool dude, but you didn't blow her away on your date.

You say the date went quite well. Does that mean you took her to dinner, saw a movie, and the two of you actually talked, or does it mean that you railed her until she came 5 times?

Just sayin, she's probably a lost case for dating, but you can always make her into a pivot.

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I think what im going to do is just freeze her out for a bit and then next week invite her someone with a group and see what happens.

For our date we went to a movie (ik its not great but the weather was terrible and she really wanted to go see a movie and she kept bringing it up so w/e)

What i think u guys should understand is that until she turned 18 her parents didnt allow her to date so shes kinda never had a bf/ dated before so i went for a hug close. After the date she hugged me several times so i thought next time i'd try the kiss.

FUCK HUGS BRO, FUCK HUGS, that is a low investment, pump buying temp then slow your shit down, kiss her without permission, lead in slow, smooth out your vocals before hand, what ever reaction she gives you, look at her smile, at most laugh if negative, and do a takeaway, next time you see her, should be really fucking easy to get a kiss

Yeah dude, a hug is totally meaning less, hug her the first few seconds you see her, you should be aiming for a K.close. man up lol

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I agree with u guys even if she hasnt been kissed before, I think its what I should be aiming for. Is there anything I should say to her or should I just give it time to see if I get a text or something from her?

Don't buy the whole her parents didn't let her do xyz because those are the freakiest girls you'll ever find. The ones whose parents were really strict on them. What she wants is a badboy, someone to fill in the void that her parents didnt allow her to have filled. She wants someone adventurous and risky, and based on your post I'm not sure your ready for such a thing.

You have to give her thrill and excitement if you want this girl, reguardless of what you may think, she really wants to have sex and a lot of it. Her mind is full of sexual fantasties she has been forced to surpress her whole life. You have to be the guy that steps in helps her fulfill this.

Opposites attract, show her how to have a goodtime, and try not to listen to what girls suggest they wanna do. Women change there minds more than I change my underwear(even tho that's not often).

Text her this now " hey shortstuff, drop what your doing. I'm taking you somewhere really cool tonight"

Get a bottle of wine, pick her up and take her somewhere open where you two can be alone and get her tipsy. You don't have to have sex with her yet but just create new experiences for her.

I've been here before dude, trust what I'm telling you

Ok so i just texted her im kidnapping you...she seemed cool with that (it goes along with a bank robbery opener ive used). She just told me she's really busy but if I can kidnap her at an opportune time she'd be cool with that (when she isnt swimming) and I think im going to take her to the lake and see if I can get something going againhj

Get her to sneak out while her parents are sleep. Broaden your thinking bro.

So I texted her this evening this was how it went

Me: Im going to kidnap you soon
HB: To do what?
Me: Go rob a bank, ill tell you what you help you get a 3 percent cut

Some time goes by so then I tell her this

Me: If you arent interested ill just go ahead with my backup accomplice but she'll charge 5 percent
HB: Im sorry ive got friends over but ill get back to you

I mean she does have friends over but does that mean that she cant properly reply to my text? I think shes just lost interest and if I dont get a reply by tomorrow im through. What do you guys think?

Why tomorrow? She's NOT interested.

There. I said it.

Now approach someone new, someone different tomorrow. Good luck.

Forget this girl.

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I wish you had listen to me dude.. You blew it

That whole bank robbery thing is kinda middle school.

Smh move on