ok ive been scouring the site and couldnt find an answer to this controversial question, "so whats new?" ive been in conversations with many girls who i think are in to me and they ask me that. what do you think the best, most lucrative answer to that question is?

i think its a shit test, because if you say, "oh nothin much..." thats a big dlv, you loser!!

but if you say "oh man, life is awesome! each sunrise is different and it brings a new day!! i fucking love life!...well then youre a psychopath...

so what do you think the best answer to that seemingly simple question is?

looking forward to the duscussion.

--Martinez

Firstly I wouldn't call "so what's new" a shit test, she's not going to be testing your ability at handling situations by asking you what you've been upto.

I obviously however agree that saying "nothing, i've been doing fuck all recently!" would be a big DLV.

I'd just say something like "oh i've just been seeing a few old friends, had a few hectic weekends out around town too!" or something along those lines. To be honest my lifestyle is pretty hectic so I'd just tell it how it is.

As long as you aren't too available to her it's all good.

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yeah i guess i dont have a full understanding of what a shit test is. i just thought it meant a loaded question. thanks though.

Agree with the above post.
It's just pretty much an everyday question people ask each other, for example 'what cha been up to etc.' You're over thinking this.
However the reply 'not much, how about you' or what the majority of the population says pretty much classifies you as just about every other boring guy she's met and asked that. Just watch out for that.
To me it's not really a shit test, more like a shit question. lol. TC

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Why don't you just say, "Today's a new day. Well, according to the calendar, if you missed that. "

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so, whats new?, is not a shit test, it is a fucking ioi,

she is interested in what is going on with you, not shit testing you,

shit tests, also called congruence tests, are a girls way of testing your congruence,

so you act alpha/dominant all the time, she will test congruence to make sure you are not putting on a fake persona,

if you walk up super confident, control frame with extreme skill, she gets massive attraction spikes, she will try to dominate you for relief, when that doesn't work she will get horny, and want to make sure there is congruence with what you are doing, most likely it is sub-conscious,

it would be something like she irrationally requests compliance, for something menial for no reason, (HOLD MY PURSE FOR A SECOND, GO DO THIS FOR ME, GO DO THAT FOR ME, GO BUY ME THIS THING, DO THIS DO THAT) for no reason out of no were, (don't go crazy with this shit every fucking request for compliance is not a shit test)

or she becomes emotionally irrational, at an illogical time for no reason,

or she says something obscene or negative to you for no reason, or trys to get you to negatively frame her (like she says hey you little bitch, or asks you if you think shes fat)

if it seems like a girl is doing something irrational in an attempt to gain a reaction out of you, this is most likely a shit test,

they want to make sure that the persona you are portraying , is real and congruent, not fake/in-congruent, they are testing how genuinely masculine you truly are,

the trick for shit tests, is never go on the defensive (a good sign your doing this is qualifying yourself to women *in other words explaining yourself*), and never go on the offensive (a good sign your doing this, is you become verbally negative, or insulting) just simply don't emotionally react to anything they say or do