Some of my friends text chicks they just met about once every two day. In my case i don't try to build something over text so i only text to set up a date. Not to chat. Is it good for my game or i should text sometimes without any reason.

For example, yesterday we went to a movie with some friends, should i text something related or just text to set up a real date?

Btw, i saw this girl 3 times. First time i k-closed and almost f-closed. Second time we kissed but it was more in a romantic way. Third time we went to a movies with friends. Third time nothing happened because we were not confortable enough with our friends arround and also i didn't to look like if i was her boyfriend.[/code]

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Think about it like this. If you've been constantly heating the pot, the thing inside is always warm.

Basically, the more you maintain contact with a girl, the more familiar she is going to get with you and the less resistance will be put up. Texting is meant to achieve that comfort with the target.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Like Draper, I always considered txting like "comfort building", or even sometimes to build attraction. Don't be affraid to txt just to set up a date. But do it the cool way, like YOU give HER the opportunity to meet, not the other way, not like you're begging her to meet.

Also, don't be affraid to txt on no-brainers like "how was your day?". But don't do that too often, as it may show too much attention.

usually, I txt HBs I want to bang with as I txt my closest friends: with caring and friendship. That builds a SHITLOAD of comfort and confindence.

Btw, you should try to build more attraction and comfort when you date her. You saying "it wasn't comfortable enough when our friends weren't here" means the confidence between you 2 is attached to your friends. You should work on cutting that incestuous link. Work your game bro, your close to a F-close, that's for sure

(The way you relate it I would also dare saying you're on your way on setting a new GF ^^)

Cheers,
Jon, aka Logycs

Ok, so I did what you said, text her something casual to be able to build more confort between us. We exchanged a few text but I didn't answer to the last one. I feel basicly that she thinks she's the big prize. It went like this :

ME - Hey I think I saw you yesterday. Not sure cuz you were not the crazy chick I met before

Her : And why is that?

Me : Well you told me two different reason lol (exboyfriend story and job). Btw don't take it seriously it was a joke -.-

Her : Lol okay, it's all good

Me : At least feeling better today? (not sure for the correct translation in english, but it looks like that)

Her : Yes lol...Slept all day! I think I was just really tired.

Then I didn't answer. The way she answered to the fact that she wasn't really fun shows like if she don't care by saying "It's all good"...

So I think the next time I'll text her will be the set up a date for the day after. I don't want to be the guy who will always text her first. :/ What do you think?

PS : It's an hb8-9 so PLENTY of guys were hitting on her, both night we met. But still we ended up together so I feel like there is something between us but she's afraid of something. She told me she has been played before but I don't know if it's explain her behavior.

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Your first mistake is that you had to clarify and justify yourself. NEVER do that. She can take it any way you want to and you're indifferent to that. That's what you want to project to women.

Your second mistake is that you are assuming too much. Nothing's happened, you guys exchanged four messages. Slow down that role. For now, focus on the moment with this girl. Also, establish big text threads. I've been texting with a girl for days on end. Single thread. Helps a LOT. She will say 'Oh! We are always talking!' and that's not a bad thing.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Thank you for the feedbacks. Just to know what to do next time if this happen to me, what should I have answered to "And why is that?" ?

Also, what kind of big thread you can start? I always thought that you have to keep it simple while texting but I get the idea to exchange a few text to make more confortable with me. Still I tried to find a good subject to start with to be able to exchange a few text but I wasn't able.

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''The real question is, why isn't that?'

but there is no right or wrong answer, just try to be in control of the frame, if you can't not a big deal just answer normally, but try not to qualify to her as to why you answered the way you did, it shows you are unsure of your actions (opposite of confidence), either that or it demostrates incongruence to your statement

After months I've finally realized, when she goes "And why is that?" the worst thing you can do is answer her. Right now I just stop txting them when they start going "what? why? who? what? what do you mean?" because answering is never good...

I like the idea. I don't understand why i tried to justify myself damn. Now I think I will text her tomorow to set up a date for the day after. In my case I will look needy if I text her just to chat after the cold answers I got. Is it a good idea or not?

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