Goodmorning! I am wondering if anyone knows any information on push-pull? I can't seem to grasp the concept, in fact I haven't heard much from it aside from it being a great technique to have... Mayhaps books or tips or who knows

Thanks in advance

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Midnight's the best time.

I don't really know exactly what that means, but I have used techniques myself which could be suited to this title so I shall share:

Sometimes you can offer a women compliments, attention, interesting stories etc. but then in order to make sure you do not fall into the Friend zone, or become too familiar and boring you pull away and go quiet on her.

For example you might be e-mailing a girl and joking about, perhaps it's getting better and better and then you perhaps say something about a romantic holiday or something and get her reponding that she's feeling emotional. Then you stop immediately and let her think about it. Completely cut off communication for a while, maybe even the rest of the day.

You have then got her to a very +ve state and kept her there for a long period so she has the chance to associate that emotion with you and also learn that when you are not there it's painful for her and she misses you.

When you come back on the e-mail the next day and do the same she'll go through the same thing again. She'll feel like she's in love.

It's much more effective than continuously chatting, and avoids you having to be continuously interesting. You take advantage of the breaks you get when you say something clever by drawing them out.

I am not sure if there is a technique like this for in person?

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think of it like this,
a push is a negative force, with the attempt to repel something away from you

a pull is a positive force, with the attempt at bringing something closer to you,

if you push too much, you will be an asshole,

if you pull too much, you are trying to gain something and not being a challenge,
girls like a guy who shows interest, but is a challenge,

push pull techniques are often, pulls calibrated with pushes so you can assert interest in a girl, but then come off as if you are not seeking report with her,

things such as YOUR SO ADORABLE, IT MAKES ME SICK,

mmm, k now take off your pants, wait no don't do that nevermind,

your so sexy, too bad your a dork,

you throw a compliment out there (the pull), but your not trying to get anything from it so you take away from it (the push)

So I understand the concept, I feel a though I am having trouble with pushing lol... I can compliment, no problem, idk what to say to push them away, Nothing witty comes to mind at all... lol I was never one to push ppl away like that x_x

Are there any books that explain more on it? Or articles online or videos?

Thanks guys! That helped alot! I'll keep plowing

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Midnight's the best time.

It's far more simple then you think.

Being stand-offish/nonchalant works just as well as direct communication.

Carry on a conversation, compliment [once in a while], and push periodically with either verbal/nonverbal communication.

Women are wired to respond positively toward positive + negative attraction.

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So push-pull is the same as compliment-neg? That's what it sounds like.. In pretty bad at negging too, I feel like I'm insulting them

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Midnight's the best time.

In a sense, yes.

I understand where you're coming from. You don't need to insult them. Just don't view them as hot, and STAY IN CONTROL.

It's just a concept that helps take away the "OMG SHE IS SO F*CKIN HAWT" aspect of it.

It's much easier to communicate naturally this way.

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"Ignorance is bliss."