Here's the short story.

I met this girl through Facebook, I saw her on a friends list and thought "Damn she's hot" so I added her and she was pretty cool about it. We talked for a while and I made her laugh the entire time, so signs were good and we met at a park for a while.

Well, last night she texts me saying "you should come buy shots off me tonight"
So I responded "Oh yeah? And what if I don't?"
She says "Well then you suck! =)"

I didn't go, I wanted to see if she really wanted me there or since she just recently got hired was just trying to impress a boss or win some bet or something, so I didn't go.

Today she texts me this "so y didnt u come???". Hrm she might've actually wanted to see me there.

I can't think of a good way to respond to this.

My room mate thinks I should text this back:

"I didn't feel like it."

Now either A: She likes me more because I'm not treating her like every other guy does probably.
B: She thinks I'm a complete dick and not in a good way and breaks all communication for now on..

Hrmm.. tricky tricky.

Hey bro,

Reply
"Sorry, my mom needed help with my niece and nephew. (Show you love family) But we should totally get together this weekend for some drinks - BUBBLE TEA!!!"

She will get a good giggle and you will totally get a date

P.

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just tell her you already had plans with a female friend.

Hrm getting conflicted responses here.

What if I went with both?

"Well I had plans with a friend of mine but my mom needed help so I went to help her."

Just tell her, "Something came up. Can we schedule that for another time?"

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I was on my way and something came up. When do you work again and I'll come by

something came up

"hahaha.. alright thats cool " is what she said.

I'm guessing I should recommend "yeah but we'll get together another time, perhaps this weekend if I'm not busy."

Thinking I should go with that.

This is such a stupid problem on these forums that it's not even funny anymore.

STOP SUGGESTING OR ASKING. START TELLING.

If you won't take the charge and tell her what you want straight up, you'll always be the coward in her eyes.

People want to be told what to do so badly, that they will listen to anyone.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I know. I've just been "the nice guy" up until this point and I'm still trying to shake off that Mr. Romantic shit that's kept me in last place with every girl I talk to.

I'm not talking nice as in, you see someone's car break down and help them out, I'm talking nice as in holding the door for them, telling them their beautiful all the time, the boring/doormat nice guy shit.

I'm just thinking over what to say, because it's a HB9 which is very rare in this small town surrounded by nothingness but a couple other small towns Got it,

"We'll meet up this weekend if I'm not busy" it is.

Don's right. Say something like "I'm going to (some activity) on (some night). Do you want to come along?"

If she says yes or no, you know where to go from there. If she says she's working tell her "Alright. Maybe I'll drop by when I'm done."

She text me just now
"so u gonna come to the bar tonight???"

Obv I can't blow her off twice, then she'd just be pissed.. the first time just made me seem busy which prolly helped me.

Hrm, obviously, I should go right? She's a bartender btw, so she'll be busy some of the time I'm there, prolly too busy to talk to me some of the time. I hear picking up bartenders is almost impossible.

BUT if I get to drinking too much, then obviously I can't drive home.. so maybe she knows this and plans on me and her staying in the same house/bed tonight?

Well she post on her Facebook:
"Work tonight.....yay!!! Everbody come to stingers n buy my shots damit!!!! ....jus sayin.. "

So obviously she's telling this to everyone and I'm probably not the only one being texted meaning this isn't a special thing. Well damn... Idk though, it could still be beneficial to me knowing I'd be too drunk to drive home.

Girls play mind games as well dude. Dont think shes going after other guys just assume shes intrested in you and only you and if she seems to be intrested in other guys shes only doing that to make you jealous. Therefore you stay un phased and can think clearly I have girls genuinally do it to me and most of the time they actually are just trying to make me jealous !!

A respond to your original message is " Im sory i was busy with my other wife "

Basically try and turn your conversation into a role playing one on how youve got multiple wives and how shes one of them and that you will eventually make time for her