Hey guys.. looking for some advice here. My girl and I took a break in our relationship a few months ago.. it really hurt her and while she was hurting, one of the PUA's out there swooped in and "eased her pain".

Any tips on how to get her back? I know she still has feelings for me, but was hurt really badly when we broke up. I need to restore her trust, and know that I can.. but not while she's distracted by this PUA... and as far as him.. he's one of the best (written a pretty well known book about it).

How can I use him being a PUA against him, leveraging what we had, but making it exciting for her again.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

First thing's first: I LOL'd.

Now that's out of the way, do tell me - if you want her back so badly now, then why did you break up with her in the first place?

Also, out of curiosity - who is that other guy?

If he is really a PUA, you tell him that you're one also and explain him the situation, if he really is that 'good', he'll understand your situation, if he acts by the code "bros before hoes", which he should imo cause I guess he was also once in a similar situation

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well.. I found myself where I was really frustrated in the relationship and didn't know how to approach things to make it right. Later I came to realize that if this is someone who you want to spend your life with, that unless there is a real betrayal, serious incompatibility, if it is a real relationship, there's ways to put it back on track. We may not have the tools that we need right now, but there are ways to learn how to deal w/ things better and that commitment in a relationship means finding a way to make it work, even if that means going out and getting help.

So now.. I have the tools I need to make things right, but she's enamored by this guy (Best not to say who), and I know he's used all of these things to get in her head. She says that she's doing it to use his wisdom to get over her insecurities, issues of self-respect and judgementality, I just know that she's going to get hurt in the end.. Hell, he's even written that pretty much every girl that he cross paths with ends up falling for him, which is when he cuts them loose to whatever pain they need to go through.

So.. the question stands.. if you're a MPUA, what's the biggest threat.. I ain't against getting sneaky here.

Hey Kupid,

Thanks for the advice. I've been thinking about that, and know that I can't judge, or be accusatory as that'd just make them a team against me, but like you said, if I just lay out where I am, the new perspective I have on things, he may see it as you said.

I suppose that there's a few outcomes:
1) He ignores it
2) He doesn't feel it's his issue and doesn't respond but tells her anyways in which case:
- She could either get pissed that I sent that and they become a team against me,
- She isn't pissed, but keeps hanging out w/ him, which would basically put me where I am right now
- She realizes that I am there and chooses to cut things off with him, freeing up some room for me
3) He does respond, but tells me to piss off, goes about his business w/ her
4) He responds, tells me to piss off and tells her, which the same options for #2 hit
5) he backs off.

Will have to think about this some more.