How can you tell when i neg was too harsh.
Obviously off the very harsh ones the signs are obvious, A slap that kinda thing.

But i was sarging the other day and was negging this chick and she was laughing,which I know is the correct response desired, but kep saying I was "mean".

Which I think is a good response but just not entirely certain?

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I'm no pro but if you go with the Mystery Method a neg should be said with a smile on your face and tongue in cheek and induce a smile or laughter!
Edit: Did she look serious when she said you were mean? Or do you think she was playing with you?

When you say they are smiling at your neg, that is a good thing as it means you come across as playful/cocky.
Also, if you are worried about negging to harsh do this..
Say the neg to the target, smile cheekily and then Immediately turn to face the obstacle and resume conversation. It's called ashotgun neg and works like a charm!

A neg is NOT an insult/attack, but a tease

You can see it on her face.

She's suddenly offended and looks at you in a "who gave you the fucking right to say that" kinda way.

Or when her face falls suddenly because of something you said.

Then, it becomes an outright insult.

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I had to ask myself this question as well. When is it just plain mean and ove rthe last couple of weeks i've been calibrating myself to neg in a tongue and cheek type manner as suggested above.

I noticed that some of my negs were hitting home a bit hard and brought it down to more fun and the results have been positive. I just need to remind myself to chill the hell out when doing it and say them with a smile.

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I've often had problems with negging.
Before I knew the term neg I always did it with girls anyway.

What I didn't do was my major problem.
I wouldn't stack forward.
A neg is an IOD, so don't say it and then wait for her reaction.
That is showing interest, and that you wanted a reaction.

Instead, if you say it in a playful manner in a teasing way, but as if it's just off the top of your head, then go into something else, it comes off as a off-hand comment and it can take the sting out of the neg to stop it being so harsh.

I think if she is laughing and calling you mean, but no slaps to the face, you got it down bro!