Sorry guys I don't have enough posts for the relationship section.

Anyway, lately I've been noticing in my relationship of 5 months that I'm getting bored. I seem to be the one always making things fun, I keep that spark lit you could say. I've come to a point where I'm tired of that, and I just don't care anymore. My question is, is this normal in a relationship? Do you get so used to each other, that it just becomes boring? I miss the single life =/

EDIT: I should add, she's about a HB9 and that's just what's keeping me with her for now. She's got a shy, insecure personality, and she's not bored yet like I am.

it can be very mentally taxing, when you feel like you are the only one essentially "trying" to make/keep/create a healthy relationship.

that's always been my experience. i try very hard, am very committed, and the girl does nothing. that is a mold that i am trying to break now.

if the single life looks "good" to you, then you probably are too young to be in a serious relationship anyway. i used to be that way. now i'm older and really would be content with just one woman i could trust who i was truly compatible with (the holy grail - not sure it exists).

women get bored. and it seems hypergamy is always at play, even well into their forties. then once the mommy hormones wear off, they become bitter/sexless manhaters, lol.

haha, i'm rambling now. sorry.

anyway, i'm seeing a woman now. but i am maintaining a frame of total non-neediness and non-givafuckness. she seems to be responding well to it.

i see all relationships as work now. like a second job. who the hell wants to work all the time. women are needy, high-maintenance, fickle, untrustworthy (for the most part), illogical, deceitful, and a whole host of other monstrous behaviors...when i find one who isn't these things, i'll marry her on the spot!

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Good luck, Mack. You'll need it.

I have noticed the same thing, in that I'm always the one trying to put forth the effort and keep things fun, while the woman just enjoys the ride, and expects me to keep it interesting.

Much like how a woman often expects a man to pay for all the dates, I just think it's something she needs to be broken of (change her expectations). Try telling her a couple times, that you're too tired to plan a date, but she's more than welcome to. If she at least tries, chances are she's willing to put in the effort, and is just not used to it.

If she says she'll wait until you're doing better, then she doesn't seem to be wanting to work on the relationship, but rather leech fun off of you. Any girl can leech fun, so unless you think she's totally worth it (which by your post it seems you do not), then don't wait for her to change. Find another girl, who hopefully can do better. And hey, maybe losing you will be the kick start the girl needs to realize tht if she doesn't want to lose you she should put in some effort!

have some really rough/dirty sex

I agree 100% with all the replies so far. I'll go through each of them for a bit.

Mack yes you're right, I am pretty young for a serious relationship, and there's no doubt that it won't last much longer. However, I got into the game about a year before getting myself in a relationship with this girl, so I'm pretty sure I got all of the AFC behaviors under control. I'll have to agree, I'm in the same frame of mind as you, with the "non-neediness" part, however not quite so with the "nongiveafuckness" part. Because if I don't give a fuck, then I'm sure she won't give a fuck either, and that's what makes me angry/bored/tired with all of this. It's just like you say. I feel like I'm the only one trying to keep this relationship healthy. And if I don't, then she won't. And I don't like it. Yes, maybe I should talk to her about it instead of venting my problems onto you guys, but nonetheless, I appreciate the feedback.

TheFreshPrince, yes I also agree with you on the "leeching fun" part, because if I'm not creating the fun vibe, then neither is she. Finding another girl will make her realize that she needs to put in some effort, that I'm sure about. I'm just so confused right now, part of me wants to end this, part of me doesn't. I guess I've got some serious shit to think about.

And Juan, spot on man. That should solve all my problems.

Like I said earlier, thanks guys for the feedback. If you or anyone has anything else to offer, please do, it's much appreciated.

these females don't give a damn anymore.

they are spoiled from cradle to grave.

if you don't do it, they will just find someone who will.

THAT is why they don't "try".

THAT is why i have "notgivafuckness".

unfortunately...

character in the opposite sex is in short, and dwindling, supply.

it's a brave new world.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Ain't that the truth. It's like a paradox, in a way. We either try, handle all the bullshit we get in return; or we don't, and get nothing. It's a lose/lose situation either way.