Hi,

Im a 24 year old guy. Im university educated, I have an excellent job and I would like to think that I'm reasonably attractive. Im also generous, kind hearted and loyal to my friends.

My problem, confidence.

Its not as though I have never kissed a girl, slept with a girl or even had a girlfriend. I have done all those things, I even had a relationship with a great girl for 3 years.

The issue I have is that something has happened and its not a recent thing. I completely lack any confidence in myself. It's is not just affecting my relationships with the opposite sex but also my career, friendships etc. I freeze up, I get horrible anxiety and I lack focus and its happening more and more.

I am even contemplating going to the doctor to see if I have some kind of anxiety disorder.

So I thought that whilst this isn't the sort of place that specialises on this, having read the game and a few other things I feel like I have a lot in common with many of the guys involved in this stuff.

I dont want to necessarily be a Master PUA and be able to sleep with any girl in the world. All I want is to be confident and able to be myself around the opposite sex. I also thought that if I could master this I would be able to extend this to other aspects of my life and be a generally better person. Has this happened for others?

I will also say that this kind of plea for help to complete strangers is not something I have ever done before, its just that I have exhausted everything else I know.

Any advice on 'inner game' stuff or anyone who can relate to what I'm experiencing will be enormously appreciated. So far I have read the game, listened to some hypnotica stuff and read a few other bits and pieces but I'm willing to give anything else a go!

Many thanks for reading all this and I honestly mean it when I say I will appreciate any help!

I recommend Carlos Xuma's Secrets of the Alpha man program. Should help you out quite a bit.

Yeah, I used to be a really shy person. Personally, once I started Game, and got confident in that, the rest of my life followed. I'm not saying you have to be in the game to get this confidence, though it wouldn't be a bad idea. I think what the deal is, is that once you gain confidence in one area of your life, you realize you're awesome, and that there's no reason you shouldn't have confidence elsewhere too.

Go find something, anything (I recommend Game, of course), and devote yourself to it completely. Go all in for it, and you'll find that you gain confidence as well.

Good luck!