Lately when I've been trying to set up day 2's I've been getting the words "maybe" "might" and "we'll see" a lot. Sometimes they flake, sometimes they don't.

Right now I'm waiting for a chick to make up her mind if she wants to meet up tonight, but I don't wanna just sit at home until she decides I wanna go see my mates.

Just wondering how some of the more experienced guys handle "maybes" and how can I turn a maybe into a yes.

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You are asking. Whenever you ask someone something you are giving them the option of saying yes, no or maybe. People say maybe when the answer is really no but they don't want to have to justify it or explain it.

Instead of posing something as a question, try stating it as a directive.

In the situation you refered to tonight, instead of asking, "would you like to go to ________ with my mates and I tonight?" and then sitting around wasting your evening waiting for her while she is blowing some other dude in the bathroom of some bar, say, " my mates and I are going to be going to _________ and we are going to be _____________. Grab some of your friends and meet us there around ________, you can get me drunk and take advantage of me in the bathroom when noone is looking."

But the important thing is actually go with your mates and do whatever it is you are going to do and don't wait for this chick. If she didn't show up, she missed out. then while you are there you can be gaming whatever other chicks are there.

NEVER sit around waiting to hear back from some gal! That puts all balls in her court and makes her the prize. Keep your balls in your pants and get out and do fun things with fun people and you be the prize.

Believe me I don't sit around waiting for girls to make up their mind, I'm too old for that. This girl though gave me a maybe the other night, I went to my mates anyway, then she texted me saying "lets meet up right now!" but I couldn't.

I'd invite her to come with me to my mates but we're all we're doing is meeting up for Maccas and she'd probably see this a DLV, it's not uber cool the stuff we do.

The other issue is she lives just around the corner from me and she has hinted that when we meet that it'll be a sexual encounter. So I don't want to get her to do lame things if she just wants to fuck as it might turn her off. And I try and avoid "asking" as much as possible.

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i think the only thing important is will she have fun, doesn't matter how lame u think it is, if you can make it fun for her, that will DHV to her, its just like that song girls just want to have fun, think of something to do, instead of asking, just throw it out there she will contact you if she is interested, yo HB im going out to Xplace on Xdate, its gonna be fucking sick, shoot me a txt that night if your down

Fundamental mistake.

Do not ask. Tell.

If you want something from her, even if a date or meeting. Tell her that. Directly.

No need to beat around the bush, or tell her you're out with people and she CAN come see you if she wants to.

Tell her, '"I want to see you tonight."

I cannot tell you how many times I got laid using that one line. And one line only.

P.S. All this is assuming you have established a good rapport and sexual tension with the girl.

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Yea DD well put.

I did actually see her tonight, long story short she's Indonesian and English isn't her first language and there was a massive communications breakdown. I took some of her comments as sexual but they were anything but, it was just her piss-poor English.

She's a muslim and apparently takes a lot of dating before anything happens. The date went pretty good, did a bit of negging, qualifying, kino escalated, good eye contact, got some good DHV in there almost by accident, she showed some IOI's, no K-close but she was very liberally kissing me on the cheek as she left.

Normally as soon as some sought of religious hurdle is thrown in I just put her in the too hard basket but she's a genuine HB9 and I have a minor Asian fetish

Now my plan is on the next date is to game her like every other girl..... any modification you think I should make considering the scenario though?

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