i need to explain, i went out with a certain girl for 4 years then we broke up as she wants kids and i dont. so we dont talk for 3 years recently i started seeing her on my bus so we talk just asking how she is, turns out she just broke up with her bf and she was living with him they own a house together, he moves in his new gf and changes the locks, last night she sent me a message saying she was outside my front door and she wanted a shoulder to cry on. she keeps me up til 2am with her crying then she kisses me one thing becomes another and we end up having sex.
this morning she says that it was a mistake a few hours later she starts kissing me again a proposes that we become fuck buddies i told her we shouldnt do that as shes fragile and someone will get hurt. i feel like ive taken advantage of her

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don't be... she's the one that aggression right? if you care... just be there for her :)

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something to add, four hours after she left she wants to come back as shes had an argument with her mother

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I'd probably feel the same way as you do, but I'd still go with her plan. Just be sure to keep your emotions in check so you don't fall for her. Trust me, easier said than done. Do that with her for 6 months to a year, it will complicate your life. I've been there.

well now shes saying it would be too hard to see me again as one of us will get hurt

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It's best that you don't keep fucking her or whatever because she's o my using you as an emotional tampon. She's trying to get her emotions out and if you let her keep using you for that it's just not a good situation. Tell her if she wants a shoulder to cry on that she can piss off, you're not her boyfriend or anything so it doesn't matter. As a side note don't feel like an asshole just learn from your mistakes. I've had plenty of success being an asshole anyway

There is no ''right'' advice for this situation, if you think she is just using you to have someone to sleep with until she finds a boyfriend then she is probably trying to take advantage of you and not the other way around, if you think she is seeking to re-connect with you and restart a relationship and you don't want that then you should probably keep your distance, all in all it is up to your better judgement, I would say communicate without judgement and try to get her to open up and be honest, good luck

thankfully shes said that she doesnt want a relationship but i know im gonna end up a shoulder to cry on and the guy she has sex with but without connection, so im gonna end up as the booty call,

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Any problem with being a booty call? Just kidding.

Actually, we can give you all sorts of advice, but in this case, I think it just depends on what she was like when you were together before. This could be a temporary rough patch, or she could just end up using you...

Lots of sex. No drama.

Well, if that's what you want. Just keep your mouth shut and keep the covers clean.

Relationship with an ex is always a slippery slope and I have learnt the hard way not to give advice on such things.

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