Gentlemen,

I have an issue on my hands with a girl I started dating. I met her in a club and started dancing with a girl and got her number. The club has an appeal to a sort of 25-35 age group and I was 21 (for our American and Canadian friends the drinking age is 18 in the UK) at the time. We talk every day and I have been on dates with her and our last date contained a lot of kino and we were walking around the town holding hands and I have kissed her and we look like a proper couple. We got talking a little bit sexy and she added me on Facebook- this is where my problem starts. I have found out she has a 2 year old daughter that she never told me about and I am about to enter a relationship with her!

How do I

a) confront her about the child

b) tell her I don't want to be too involved in the child's life- I am only 22 and not gonna lie probably not a good role model for kids.

I know she really wants me and I could easily pump her but i think she wants more and so do I- what i really want is a casual relationship where I don't mind committing to her but I don't want to commit to her kid, not financially or emotionally.

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hootsmon

Maybe she doesn't want you committed to her kid either if she hasn't mentioned him. Maybe she just wants something casual, but only you know how she acts and if it seems like she wants a committed BF. The best thing you can do is just manage her expectations early on and not act like the BF. Make sure she knows you're not interested in a LTR before you have sex with her. Let her know this directly, pick your words not to sound too harsh, but leave no doubt in her mind about what you want from her. This can be hard to talk about when you like somebody, but it really is the best solution, especially when there is a kid involved. I hope you sort it out, cheers mate!

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

most women will be mothers at some point.

kids are fun too. especially if they aren't yours and you don't have to pay child support.

i've dated a few (most) women with kids, and if they bring the kid around, i have so much fun playing with the kid that i forget about the mom!

i'm incredibly immature!

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Be prepared to be apart of that childs life in a big way if you wanna get into a relationship with her. She didn't mention anything because she was probably afraid. What woman would not want to provide her child with a father figure? Trust me, you're in the backseat in comparison to that child. If you really wanna get into a relationship with her, scoring points with her kid is the best way. If you dont want to be involved with a kid....dont date a mother.

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A Tru nigga

Run!!!!!

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Get the fuk out. More fishes in the sea. Why bother?

i was in a relationship with a mother.. and im still seeing her, but not in a relationship because im not done dealing and pursuing other women.

and i have to say its not a bad thing at all.. she treats me good. she cooks for me, let's me sleep over her house. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY she doesnt push her kids on me.. i met them WAYY after me and her got close.. and even then, she introduced me to her kids as her friend.. So the kids see me as their friends too.. they love me and always ask about me..

point is, it works because she didnt force me into being their "father"..

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It's Always Forward Im Moving, Never Backwards!

Advantages: women that have kids, strong, hustlers... They have to be, to take care of their kids, hard working woman.

Disadvantages: Father drama, sometimes kids drama, already baggage, and for what i am seeing you are young, do you see a future with this girl, if not, run, also what if she gets pregnant by you...


dude trust me run...

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