Hi. So I'm 20, never really had a girlfriend. But everyone I meet seem to have strings of ex's. So in order to retain some value, I tell people that I've been in two relationship before.


The first one I tell is where the girl actually rejected me and I tell people I slept with her. (This is to cover the fact that I'm actually not a virgin - a woman on craigslist felt sorry for me). The second is a girl that I only talked to on the phone but never really met. I tell people that that was actually a relationship and that it took too much time so I decided to stop.

But the main question I want to ask stems from my phone conversations with the second girl. While talking to her, I did mention that I had an "ex" but for some reason she could tell I was inexperienced at dating. She told me in our conversations that she had guys french kiss her on the first date and ask for dirty pictures of her right off the bat. The fact that I didn't ask for anything sexual seem to make her think that it's because I only had one "ex".

So I want to ask is how bold do I have to be in order for woman to think I'm experienced at dating because I feel that just the fact that I haven't dated much will lower my value if I ever told the truth.

Don't lie, that just makes shit worse. Don't just focus on 1 or 2, go out there and meet as many women as you can, practice makes perfect. You shouldn't care on whether they think your inexperienced at dating or not.

I completely agree with lukeyx.

Dont lie mate! Dont be bold in your lies, be bold in your actions. Women dont really care that much if you are an experienced dater or not. What the hell does that mean anyway, experienced dater...

Be bold in your actions, go for what it is you want. Be confident in the fact that you can get what it is you want. It is far more attractive then 'an experienced dater'. Dont spit the details though, that is only for you to know (and now maybe us as well, but that is ok).

If she asks: had many girlfriends before, what shame is there in saying: nope, none, but i am going to change that.

that is a strong statement. Nothing to be ashamed about. I do have this feeling that you have some kind of issues with the subject... its an insecurity for you i think, but if so, its not necessary.

Good luck!

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dude I'd say this is a shit test

What you do is say while yes you only had 1 ex (tell them the truth!) that is not the reason why you aren't like that. Say that you are a gentlemen, and while yes you would like that, you want to get to know her first ( That would be what I would say, maybe you had different motives? Say the exact truth, no games, and confidently like there's nothing wrong with it and that you know you are normal. It'd be better to do this on the phone or in person, as texting doesn't convey meaning/conviction/tone and shows you have more time for her than just a text message. Confidently display the type of person you are is all.