| Two quick things:
Your DHV stories always need to be worked in. The way you describe it, it sounds to me that you're doing whatever gaming you're doing, then SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEECH! You grab the conversation steering wheel, and yank it to the side so that you're heading in a whole new direction: DHV story time. Then you jar it back to gaming her. DHV needs to just be something that comes up. Don't be a robot that enters DHV mode. Then you seem like you're qualifying yourself to her, and that actually DLV...
Also, don't make the two mistakes you made when you talk about previous dates:
1. Don't label it a date. You're right about how women can be upset about you telling them you're dating other women. Your problem? You use the word "date", which today, sometimes communicates hoking up, or looking for sex. If you just tell her you were hanging out with your friend, much better, implies you've got women around you, aren't hounding them for sex, and are selective (you put her in "friend" terms).
2. You call her Rebecca. If you've worked up this other girl properly, then she's probably imagining herself with you to some degree. Not necessarily intimately yet, but thinking "Yeah, I like this guy, we should hang out, maybe date, etc."Her mind will wander down that path. Which means that when you talk about other women, she's already going to get a little bit jealous. Silly? A little. But that's female psychology, so you can't fault them. Learn to deal with it instead. Just mention a friend, but no names. Names put a face to this girl, and makes her more real. You want hr to be this faceless entity. A presence, but not a threat.
Oh, and Welcome to the Forum!
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