Let me tell ya something fellas, it never ceases to get me moderately pissed whenever a woman asks me this question on a first date. Things are going swell, and then all of a sudden she starts in... "So tell me about your last ex-g/f"... or "Have you ever been married?" (No I haven't, and I'll get into that in a minute.) followed always by "Why?"

Women are so dang curious, always shit-testing, always intrusive, always judging.

Now my personal thought is, that any relationship predicated on your prior dating history is not a good one. Why bring your past into every new relationship? Let the past stay where it needs to be, in the past, no need to dwell on it if you're both comfortable that you've moved on, and it always takes two to tango so frankly I never buy it when a woman tells me seemingly outrageous stuff about ex-b/fs.

See that's my whole thing. Last ex-g/f was a cool chick until she broke up with me one day out of the blue that she was unhappy b/c I didn't want to move in with her after only a month of dating, and was pissed that I didn't call her 5x a day at work b/c I was busy with work and I respected her profession and didn't want to chit-chat all day. Well, she wasn't very cool with that, accused me that all I wanted was sex, etc etc. Can we say needy? Can we say she bottled up her feelings without communicating until it was too late? Of course! Then she started a whole slew of calling me afterwards (this went on for a good while), starting drama, the whole nine yards. I wouldn't expect this level of immaturity out of a 40y/o woman with a PhD but guess what? It happens, that's life.

I mean, is there any way to answer that appropriately while being honest?

"I don't want to trash my exes" = "I'm hiding something" to a woman or alternatively "I'm not over my exes"
"My ex-g/f's are all crazy" = "I'm going to trash you after we breakup" to a woman
"Well it's complicated" = "I'm hiding something" to a woman
"It just didn't work out for either of us" = "I'm hiding something" to a woman

See? Damned if you do, damned if you don't. The curiosity of a woman is a beautiful and scary thing.

Throw me some answers to give on this one the next time a woman asks. I like the creative/funny kind that puts the ball in my court to qualify them more, I don't just want to rant to a woman on my own philosophies about bringing that crap up, I want to make a game out of it.

to make a long story short ... don't talk about ex-GFs ... just don't answer. if she asks just say '' oh you want to be my ex-gf already''.

just pipe the question back ... if she asks you why you never been married ask her the same thing before answering.

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4 points of rep given b/c you just made me lol so hard I spewed Dr. Pepper out of my nose.

Ok but you know once in a blue moon that girl's going to go, "No I asked you first!" All that dang shit-testing. What then?

1. ask her why you should answer questions that you don't want to answer...

2. you can also say you want to get to know her better before talking about such things... woman love this because it's conveying you are really trying to know what she's about ... all woman love to talk about themselfs - most people do.

3. drink dr.pepper and spew it out of your nose all over her but you have to make sure she likes dr.pepper

look it all comes down to this ... if you do not want to answer a question - then don't answer it. People need to deserve your respect.... just tell her you don't want to answer that question and initiate a new topic.

it's about being a man who knows what he wants.....

you don't have to build a glass wall by cutting every question off... you can also tell her a certain question is making you uncomfortable , if she's really interested in you she wants to avoid losing your respect.

you can also be more aggressive by saying '' irrelevant'' each time she ask a undesired question.
to me number 3 sounds solid

just realise these aren't really tactics or techniques ... it's just trying to communicate your emotions in a accurate way - if you don't feel like answering or you don't like the question then just communicate it. keep this whole sentence in your mind and re-read your first written message'

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Makes pretty damn good sense to me. I think #2 sounds like the best option to me because it's really how I honestly feel in those situations.

ok ... now you probably know why it's bad to answer a question that you don't want to answer in the first place.

communicating emotions is communicated how you really feel , all shit test are actually just designed to see how you are feeling and if you can communicate on a emotional level ... all woman are emotional.

so if you answer question you did not want to answer you are cutting of the emotional communication - and by thinking you have failed a shit test you probably put more plexiglass between you and the woman.

all woman can really have in depth communications with eachother - somehow they understand eachother without really trading many words. They communicate on a emotional level and men tend to communicate on a logical level - woman can read subcommmunication unconciously and your subcommunication is totally dependable on how you feel.

so if you are being nice or thinking you are nice by answering a question you don't want to answer you are just not communicating how you really feel ( emotions ) , your whole subcomunication and behaviour is incongruent.

woman do not shit test to find out if you are confident or alpha ... that's a bunch of crap ... she just want to see if you understand your own emotions because if you are in touch with yourself you can understand her better on a emotional level. she's just testing you if you can communicate on a emotional level... this is a better realisation because you will realize you need to be more honest to yourself and be more open to her.

if you think you are alpha and you failed a shit test you whole alpha identity is threathened - your behaviour is actually affected by you thinking you have failed a shit test - you probably will place more plexiglass between you and the girl.

so try to remember what a shit test is all about ... it's to see if you are aligned with your emotions - it's to see if you can communicate how you feel. how can you have a relationship if you can't communicate how you feel.
we understand why woman shit test and shit test are kinda cool...

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every time i've ever had this i've handled it this way, and it's worked like a charm every time.

when a girls asks you about your exgfs early on just respond by saying "I have an idea". of course she'll say "what?" then i just say "let's NOT talk about our failed relationships".

sounds kinda dumb but it's never not worked for me. then totally switch the conversation to something fun. if there's any follow up about the exgf, just let her know that you'll fill her in at a later point if/when you two get to know each other better.