So me and this girl been chilling for a month and a half (however, been flirting over text for quite a while)... Real comfortable holding hands and eachother... Getting physical (no kissing yet)

I can tell shes into me...so I thought it would be necessary to tell her I like her...And i did (dont rip on me haha) (long story)... And you know what happened... Friend zone speech... (aka I like you, but not enough, yet)

After that, i AGREED that being friends was the best way to go...and after all that, we still continued getting physical (Same as before) and she said a few times, with a sarcastic tone, "friends dont do this" (when i hold her hand, or when i hug her from behind, etc.) but i just ignored it... Near the end of the day, she also said "we cant be doing this kind of stuff next time we chill"

So im wondering...Why she let me continue doing that? (Maybe because i said i AGREE we should be friends but i communicated other wise with the touching -- this confused her?)

And most importantly...Whats my next step? (Please, no "move on" posts... Looking for some constructive feedback)... Im thinking:

-> 2 week freeze out
-> Contact, make date plans
-> FLIRT/TEASE
-> Alot of push/pull
-> Show her i dont need her

Thanks!

You cannot blame a girl for thinking you guys are just friends if that's what you told her. You may be coming a bit misleading here; it may look like you said "friends" but you did not mean it at all, which can easily build mistrust and you come off as not daring enough to express what you want. You can give her the "I do not put my friends in boxes" spiel. This works for me when a girl uses the word "friend": "just because I'm your friend, it does not mean I can't also find you attractive." A potential advice is to find another girl(s) and show this girl you are into what she's missing—though this game may not benefit anyone here.

Anyhow, she's getting enough of her physical and emotional needs with you in a very safe way. The question you need to ask yourself is, why should she sacrifice this?

i did this before, but it was more of a test to see what would happen, not the fact i was interested. She constantly carried on flirting with me after that and i got the speech too.

What you could do is dominate and show her its neither what you both what, be a bit more aggressive than usual with kino and take the lead, dont talk to her about it though, show her through actions. She obviously doesn't want to stay as friends, but i think you need to take the lead and play the role she wants you to play. She will either follow your lead or push you away, if she pushes you away, freeze her out, it will show what shes actually missing out on because shes currently having a good time with you.

Some girls are just flirty, even with their friends.

But, sounds like she was into you but you failed to make your move so she lost interest.

Next time kiss her. If shes being flirty and holding hands and shit, you can and should kiss her and take it from there. Make bold moves.

Don't play to not loose, play to win.

EDIT: What to do now: Leave it be for a month or two. Go out, meet other women and have fun. If you still want her on two months, start being flirty and sexual with her again and take it from there.

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@trebuchet good ending question bro... I dont know! And i only agreed AFTER she made the "speech"

@lukeyx thanks!

@Warped Mindless Thanks! I've went for the kiss before... she turned her head...but we've had a fun convo about it so I thought it was OK if i didnt get the kiss before telling her i liked her