Hi Chaps,

In need of advice before I fudge it up!

I do a lot of kino on her, she slaps me on the arm, banter and laughing is fantastic ... it's bridging the gap to a smooch which seems near impossible. I wanna scream at her "it makes perfect logical sense!", but then I remember that women, annoyingly, aren't turned on by logic as men are.

BACKSTORY. I know Mchottie (not real name) from uni. We have had 2 snogs in total: once about 2 years ago, and then again about a month a go. First was random drunk in a club before I knew her, and second was initiated this time by her, and again whilst drunk in a club. Second time she was in an unhappy relationship and told one of my friends she liked me. Hmm, alcohol and clubs...

Now we have finished uni and moved back home, London and Surrey.

So then last Tues we went to Wimbledon tennis together. After hours of banter, anticipation and sweating, I tried to kiss her, which failed, and was horribly embarrassing for about 10 mins. She uncomfortably rummaged around in her bag to avoid eye contact whilst my brain unhelpfully assembled a clipshow to remind me of all my previous failures with women. Luckily, she was not too repelled and within about 30mins we soon laughed it off (if not with a little tickling to help force the laughs out).

Yesterday, we went to dinner, which again should classify as a date! And again there was plenty of laughing, manhandling and headlocks, which she loves ... but where o where was the sexual chemistry?!

PROBLEM:

A) She liked me when she had boyf because I could make her laugh. But am I now just her dancing monkey??!!

B) I don't know how to amp the attraction, though perhaps it is already there, I am just blind to it, and just need to kiss close better.

C) ORRR is it as simple as getting her good and plastered in a club before a beautifully romantic night of filthy passion can blossom? Booze seems like a copout to me.

We are gonna go to a gymnastics class soon, but I very much doubt it's so she can perve on my scrawny muscles. I also wanna avoid building too much rapport coz the attraction stage appears flimsy.

Masterminds please!

Sticky situation you have gotten into my friend. First off I would start with a freeze out. I would call her and cancel gymnastics and dont talk to her for a week or how ever long it takes for her to let down her guard to kiss her, remember two steps forward one step back. Also take a step back and see how your gaming her... such as coming off too nice, or being there everytime she calls ppl want what they cant get. If you have layed her already you should already know what sexually arouses her, aim towards that.