I'm new to the game here, so bear with me. I have a GF who I can't stand but will having trouble getting rid of for a myriad of reasons.

We used to go get food at this place together until we had a falling out for about a week. When we got back together she decided to send me to the place alone every time. I quickly made friends with the girl who works there and helps me with take-out. The girl asked what happened to my GF and I told her we had an issue and now for some reason she doesn't wanna come with me. The girl thought it sounded odd.

Anyhow, this girl was real curious about my relationship and I told her that I wasn't happy but that I'm busy in school and have no real time to date anyone else now regardless if I broke up with my GF. The girl agreed, but made statements about how my GF was shady and said I needed a change. She even said that my GF came in with another guy but I have no way to confirm. Dunno if this was a lie to induce a break up or truthful info.

Well, as time went on, this girl was always happy acting to see me and curious about how things were going. She would flirt and tease quite a bit. A couple times after her not being there when I went to get food I jokingly said "Ya know, if you aren't gonna be here, then there's no point in coming in....and I don't have your number so I can't check to see if you're working". Then we joked about it for a minute and I said I'd give her my beeper number, because who has a beeper!? As soon as a lull came up she goes "So you want my number then or not?" Of course, right or wrong, I took it. She quickly texted me asking questions and stuff.

Then, she was drinking one night and we were texting some harmless banter about her "work BF". She jumps into this tirade about me coming in to get food so often and how it isn't right to my GF but she likes my friendship and doesn't want to stop seeing me. I'm like WTF? I'm not crossing any lines that I know of. Maybe I shouldn't be talking to her or even accepting her number, but I never attempted to cheat.

Then, she went out of town to visit her family. I didn't text her at all the whole time. She seemed like she was a bit dramatic and her comments about being skeptical of me kinda irritated me. When she got back I didn't know it until I saw her at the restaurant. She was all meek acting and kinda shy as she said "Hi". I was like "Hey, you're back" She goes "I've been back for a while" I replied "Well I expected you to text and tell me" Of course her reply was "I didn't know I was supposed to." Me: "Well, you're not obligated but I thought you would". Her "I thought you'd text me while I was gone to see how I was" Me " You were on a vacation with your family, I wasn't gonna bug you". Clearly that bothered her I think, my not texting her while out of town, but come on!

Now she's real distant and strange acting with me. She says "You can text me you know" but she only texts me once in a while to ask if I'm coming in to see her at work. I got a little fed up with her double speak and mixed signals and said the phone works both ways you know. She made a comment like "I wanted to talk" (not sure what that implied) and even said I think you got the wrong impression.

I think she wanted me to break up with my GF and make moves on her but my situation with my GF is a mess. Not an easy deal to break off like that. The GF and I are drawing to a close but I need as little drama as possible because I know my GF is going to make things dicey. I also think she was mad that I didn't text her while she was out of town, unless I said something that turned her off. I guess in a way I was hoping to make friends and possibly hook up when I was able to, selfish as that may be. The girl really draws me in for some reason and I don't know why.

My question is, given her behavior of not really being that interested like before and almost appearing to just be nice because she's working and wanting tips IMO, how do I deal with her now? When I go there to get food I know if I act distant she'll ask me what's wrong. She has once before when I had a bad day. Should I even bother texting her at all? I'm temped to sit outside in the heat and tell her just to bring my food outside, but how obvious, lol. I'm feeling a bit ambivalent about the whole thing now. Last night she was totally disinterested in my conversation, but then again, it had to do with going to a club. LOL

No huh?? LOL

Is this restraunt girls behaviour--ie the weird stuff, similar to the weird stuff u get from your GF

How do you mean?

The GF has now password protected her phone but she doesn't know I know. I only found out because she never reboots her phone and complains that it locks up but fails to follow my direction to reboot it. Plus she is bad about charging it. I rebooted it the other night and it wouldn't even default to the main screen without a password. In 3 years she has never cared if I used her phone or messed with it for any reason. Same here.

Plus, the GF works in the same small office with my mother. Bad deal. They used to work for different attorneys but the one retired and now my mom has to work for the attorney my GF works for and they are way too close IMO. My GF doesn't really like my mother so it bothers me having to hear about it all the time. Drama.

My GF is also secretive about too many things. She has mentioned marriage but won't disclose things that normal people do about money and similar affairs. She bought a BMW a while back but I was under the impression she was barely scrapping by. Something is fishy.

The girl at the restaurant.... who knows. Her demeanor is totally disengaged compared to before. She used to text, ask questions about life, school, even the GF. Now she doesn't text, only talks on a superficial "being-friendly" level, and just acts different.

Like I said, if I were single, I would be trying to run a game on her for sure and had hoped to keep her interested until I could figure out how to get rid of my GF without too much trouble. Stupid I'm sure. Either way I just found it odd that she did a 180 in her behavior. Perhaps she is just emotionally unstable.

I already considered that my GF was trying to set me up to see if I'd cheat or something, but no way these two talk. I'm pretty good at figuring things out eventually and my GF would not have kept quiet about me having this girl's number.