Hey guys, wow, ive hit a goldmine finding this forum! lots to learn and a long way to go for me!

I just need a bit of help with a girl that im falling for.

about 11 years ago when i was a teen, I had a chick friend, we were pretty good friends. Anyway, she liked me back then but because of the circumstances at the time, things didnt eventuate.

We lost touch for the last 5 or so years. But every time we ran into each other she would be so stoaked to see me, and follow it up with a sms like "oh it was so good to run into u"

Anyway, 4 weeks ago, she randomly msgs me on msn, we chat, and she's like yeah we need to meet up. Low and behold, one week later, i run into her, and we hug and we're happy to see each other and after a brief chat she says ok i gotta go, but we need to catch up.

The morning after, i get a sms, saying something along the lines of "if was great to run into u, we need to catch up, let me know" So i arrange to have dinner.

So in the past 4 weeks since the intial dinner I've made the following observations:

- She is kinda touchy, n she'll do stuff like, put food on my plate that she doesnt want, or have some of my food,
- we've been email each other and chatting on sms and phone every day. All messages will get a response.
- she tells me how much of a cool guy she thinks i am, and all the things that are appealing about me (not out of the blue, but on topic of other stuff such as y i havent got a gf) she says stuff like i have a cool maner and i look pretty trendy lol, and im genuinly nice, n my hobbies etc
- she will jokingly say that shes trying to impress me i.e- im like how about ill grab some take away for u and drop it off? she would be like no, "cause then id have to get all dolled up for u" or after our first dinner, i said "hopefully we wont need to wait another 10 years to meet again" and she replied "if i waited 10 years id be too old to impress u"
- its almost like she really wants to see me, be with me, or talk to me. and shes not showing any signs of slowing yet.


Now, just from going by the above, it may sound like she wants me bad but ive also made the following observations that make me think otherwise:

a. she tells me about this guy that keeps wanting to see her, and how annoying he is. when i said that she didnt even give him a chance, she declared that she didnt want a relationship.
b. she keeps telling me how much she loves this guy thats gone overseas, and how much she misses him. but at the same time, she also says that if i went away, she would go and drag me back lol.
c. she is the type of chick who has more guy freinds than girl friends, so i dont know if shes just like that to all her good guys friends? or is she naturally a flirt?

we've been talking for about 4 weeks now, and i have not made a move and kept it platonic, i noticed that in the past week, she is msging and emailing me less.

I'm the guy shes always chatting to just about random stuff, nothing in particular, but ive also been nice to her- picking her up from work, kinda playing a bit of a bf role etc, sometimes she will say how nice i was to pick her up, but also suggest its a bit too nice (is she trying to get it out of me? to say i like her?)

What do u guys think? does this chick want something more? or is she loosing interest? what should i do? keep my distance? should i make my intentions clear? since she hasnt msged me for a few days, should i be the one to msg her or should i wait? and play a bit hard to get? has something put her off or is she playing hard to get?

Thanks guys any help would be greatly appreciated

From the things you wrote...
a. This girl is just saying that, think of it as a shit test. Of course she wants a relationship, otherwise she wouldn't be talking about it.

b. Guy overseas? loves him? if you go overseas, she'll drag you back? In a fucked up way, she's hinting that she sort of has a thing for you.

c. she is flirting with you. no girls goes through the effort of setting up dinner dates with 100 guy friends.

Also... you said she used to like you. She probably still does, just start building tension. And start playing around with the idea of her liking you. Be subtle though, an example I read:

When you first see her: Do you always dress this pretty or are you just trying to impress me?
Of course be joking around when you say it

I wish I was in your situation...
You should text her something to get the convo going, then go somewhere with her, take a walk by a park or something, sit down somewhere, build tension, and BOOM kiss her, ONLY if you see the signs there.

Hope i helped

She likes you. Escalate A S A P or get ready to be put in the friend zone

to me this seems like your dealing with a tester type girl, she is looking for a guy right now chances are she flirts with a shitton of guys, also by your post seems like she is into you, but don't expect her to be direct with you or even honest about it for that matter, just isolate her to your house build some tension escalate and have sex, after sex expect that she opens up

Thanks for the replies guys.

Damn! so she does like me! and now the sudden drop in communication, is her trying to test me or is it her getting sick of me not making a move or telling her?

How should i react to the silent test? should i approach her? or give it a few days, and then come back with a different attitude i.e- start to flirt, and touch more etc?

Thanks for all the help guys!

if she is going non reactive freeze her out for a bit then try again, but you must follow through to the end if you want to sleep with her SHE WILL NOT MAKE THAT HAPPEN you need to make it happen, better to risk all and end up with something, then to hold on to nothing, isolate her to your house, distract her with a movie or someting, start escalating with relentless fearless kino while her mind is occupied, then makeout, go commando, when you get hard put her hand on your dick and rub her vag if this doesn't work then stop wasting your time on her and go get more numbers/dates

cheers.

yep, worst fears have been confirmed, shes definatly changed her tone, being very short and non talkative. she also told me about her massive weekend drinking with guy friends.

ill freeze her out for a while then apparoach with more defined intentions.

how long do you guys suggest I should freeze her out? and when i finally contact her again, should i ask her if aything was wrong or if i said something to piss her off? how should i approach when i re-emerge?

Cheers

2 weeks to 1 month, usually i would just freeze her out untill she re-initiates contact or maybe send her 1 random mass txt a month, but you seem to not be on an abundance wavelength, you need to get more girls in your phone and in your life, she re-initiates be more forward follow steps from previous post, isolate to house etc. GOOD LUCK also don't call her out never react to anything it is not a big deal, if you re-initiate just act like there wasn't even a freeze out, you should go out gameing a few days/nights a week (depending on what you like daygame or nightgame, personally i like daygame) just grab phone numbers, have a breif chat tell the girl you think shes cute drop time constraint request number rinse repeat, then gain report through mass txting the #s you collect, invite them to your house or on dates to places close to your house follow above steps as stated