I need some advice...
Background:
I've know this girl for years through nights out and last time I was out, I bumped into her. I split up with my wife at the beginning of the year and was talking to her about it when I last saw her - she asked how my marriage was going.
Since splitting from my wife I've been working out furiously and lost 21lbs to get down to 160lbs and a fairly toned up. I look a lot different to how I did last time I saw her.
She has a puppy which was my opportunity to ask her out - I have a dog too. I asked "when do I get to meet [dog's name]?" over email and we've arranged to meet at a coffee place on Wed night.

I'm not sure whether arranging the coffee is an IOI or not so I've come to the conclusion that I need to handle this in a 'friends' way.

- How is the best way to structure my conversation in terms of: DHVs, Routines etc to make her want to see me again?

- Has anybody been in the same position and been successful?

Thanks in advance

You don't get the idea of becoming the prize. She agreed on seeing so she has interest. Check her out, if she's cool, you might call her for a second date. You should have enough true DHV stories so you can just share some stories with her, tease her a bit, etc. Understand though, that your job is not to impress her and that you should assume hers is to some extent. When you accept that she might not be what you're looking for and she has to prove herself, she'll feel that too and try to win your attention. Give her small bits of it over time and she'll be dying to grab some more next time.


And have fun, man. You've lost some serious weight, you feel young, sexual and there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't enjoy this. Think less about routines and more about fun. Fun is a major attraction tool.