Okay, so i'm fairly new to the world of pua! I was out a couple of nights ago and met a girl whos mother and father own a really high class health club (she's the receptionist). Until last night we had barley spoken just general chat as i walked by her to go to the gym... So last night we're out and cut a long story short their was some intense flirting. I made her qualify herself several times over and she was telling me to feel her ass etc as she said she had a really nice ass (kim kardashian style). So we keep on flirting and i mention that i like a challenge, so i go to kiss her and she pulls away and says "well you've found the right girl" etc etc so eventually i disqualified her and said you're not my type anyway! she reaccted like no other girl has, usually others question as to why their not my type. However, she basically walked away! WHAT THE FUCK? what went wrong? was their not enough comfort or something? Help would be greatly appreciated brothers! Dimiteri

that was more an insult, and less a disqualification, lol

*timing*

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Thanks for your input man! any advice on what I should say when I next see her?
Dimiteri

idk, i'm not a pua, others will have better advice.

my first thought was that what you said was more 'reactionary' than a 'disqualification'.

i'll be interested to hear what others say.

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You were in the game and you were already making forward progress. Why did you feel the need to disqualify??

she may have been attracted to you and liked you and you blew her out. you may have hurt her feelings or at least made her think she was barking up the wrong tree. She may have also thought you were being a dick.

This may also be a shit test to see if you will come crawling back appologizing like a snivvling pussy.

My advice is next time you see her, act happy to see her again and act like nothing happened and nothing is out of the ordinary at all. She may have some bitch shields up but just keep talking with her like you did before she bolting and she may lower that pretty quick.

We may need to talk a little about what disqualifyers are and what their role is.

There is an assumption that attractive women have guys approaching them for sex all the time and if you let her know that you are interested in sex from her she will raise her bitch shield to keep out the hords of guys trying to get in her pants.

The role of the disqulifyer is to attempt to disarm her bitch shield by making her think that you are not trying to get in her pants while you make some kind of end-play later after getting her attracted to you and developing some rapport.

If you are making a cold-approach on someone you have never met or seen before in a bar or club-like setting where there is a high likelyhood she is being hit on or she assumes she will be hit on, a disqualifyer may or may not be worth considering.

However in your case you had encountered her before in a nonsexually charged stetting and she probably didn't think you were any kind of player to begin with since you hadn't gamed her prior.

When you two started bantering around she may have already had her bitch shields down and when you came back with some PUA line like that she probably did think she was being gamed by a player at that point or she may have just thought you were being a dick or were sincerly not interested in her.

I'm not a real PUA either but in my humble opinion I think you employed a tactic that was not needed at all because there was already some attraction and interaction taking place and you were making forward progress.

see comment 'here2play'

The technique 'Disqualifying' can be used to lower the protection shield of the girl. Or in situations for the guy to show he is not needy (DHV).

The girl probably was already into you, and has noticed your mutual interest. Therefore she showed her interest (don't forget that girls are insecure) to a guy, and suddenly the guy says she is not your type: she thinks you are playing with her feelings.

Still, the game is not lost. You have used the "disqualifier". Now you should use the "qualifier". For example:
"girls that are not afraid to be angry, I appreciate this"

"I like girls that show resistance"

lol! wrong thing to say!

You basically made a big deal out of getting rejected from a kiss. You basically said, since you didnt kiss me, I am gonna become emotionally reactive and put you down. She can only imagine what you could have done if your about to have sex but she didn't wanted to.


Next time, a girl doesn't kiss back. Back off and talk about something else like it never happened. Try again later. Is all good, your gonna screw up tons before you get better

Let's back up 10,000ft here, why the hell would you say that when she wanted you to feel her ass? Screw the kissing so soon you were already at the ass! I hope for your sake you at least respected her wishes and felt the ass, that's easy intimate physical contact that she invited you to.

Get the phrase "you're not my type" out of your head immediately. That's a defense mechanism, and you used it as a defense mechanism, and she had every right to walk away. Do what the rest of the guys here say the next time you see her, maybe it's salvageable maybe not.

(Wow only a couple of days in this forum and I'm already thinking this way LOL)