Hey dudes. Let me start off by saying thanks in advance for whatever advice gets thrown my way and that I've never been really good at gaming. So anyway, I started ( a couple days) ago talking to this chick who I know from high school and we haven't talked in years (well she initiated contact with me). She IM'd me with a "hey stranger " and we bantered for a little while so towards the end she tells me I should come see her at the bar she works at this Friday and of course I said, "sure!, I'll have to see what I'm up to but I could probably make it" and she thought it was great. At the end of us talking I said we should get together sometime and she said "sure thing, of course" or something to that effect and we exchanged numbers. We've texted back and forth for a little while over the past couple days (she even started texting me out of nowhere today), and I'm really diggin this girl. Anyway, my question is, when I go to the bar on Friday what can I do to keep her mind on me/coming back over to see me and wanting to talk to me while she's working? I'm sure she just asked me there so she could just get more business and better tips (I hope not), but if that's' the case how can I flip the tables on her and get her into me? Hopefully that's enough info for some sound advice thanks guys!


p.s.- I read GUESSS' "phone game..." thread and was wondering about something; I stopped conversation on the texting today by saying "hey, I gotta jet though. I have to go to the gym still and run some errands but text me later ok? bye" was this a good move or no? because I kinda feel like it's in the middle ground somewhere. I stopped texting so the power was in my hands but I also asked her to get back to me and she never did so I don't really know....

Go to the bar, and see if there are a bunch of other people from your high school there. The easiest way to see if she just wanted to fill the place is if 30 other people heard from her in the past week as well. If the place isn't crowded then she probably did want to talk to you, as not only were you invited specifically but she would have the free time to make conversation. If the bar's busy then she would obviously not be able to spend a lot of time talking to you for reasons other than taking your drink order.

Even if it isn't the reason you want, it never hurts to have an "in" with a bartender.

Agree with the post above. Seems legit.

Don't plan on falling in love with this girl because she ask you to come visit her at the bar where she is working. She could simply be trying to promote for the place so she can fill the bar up.

You gotta read her. If her interaction at the bar is same with everyone including you, she is just promoting. If she is constantly talking to you more then everyone else. She is probably interested.

Regardless, when you go, you have to bring the party. Socialize with everyone and have a good time.

If you have your cold approaches pick up skills down, which I assume you don't since your tripping over this one girl, you would be money.