My story:

I started approaching a girl I like a lot, and knew she was having some fun with another guy for a little while. She liked him, but still gave a lot of IOI in me. I started using some BFD's and got quite a way. What I didn't know, was that she was a lot further with the guy then I thought untill she told me last night, quite out of the blue.... She chose for him. (1. Did i get too close and it frightened her? )

My problem: For my feeling I kinda landed hard in the friendzone, a place I normally don't mind, but I do want to get with her a lot. I know there are a lot of other girls, and this one didn't stop my game with the rest. But i think you know what I'm feeling right here....

(2.) How can i keep myself out of the friendzone, for the time she's getting along with the other guy? She isn't the rushing type (also a little bit insecure), so they're not in a relationship yet. I can't just back off and say nothing anymore.... She's someone in my student society.

(3)Did my game fail and am I stuck in the friend zone? Can I get out of it, leaving me a chance for when they break up?(4) I'm not gonna sit idle until they break up (maybe they never will ofcourse).

No, her and that guy have more sexual tension going on. Just tell her this, "We can't talk anymore, I'm just too horny for you. If I was there I'd fuck you pretty hard since you're pretty and all. Take care."

Just say that and she will be blown away.

Ok, I could see that working on a hot girl, not insecure.

But this girl is very shy, and has shared some info with me on her personal life that isn't all that pretty. Can i get some different opinions on this case?

The other guy seemed to have an head start of 1.5 months... of which 3 weeks a little more serious. 2.5 weeks in which i really made the first contact with her. Talking went pretty fast after that.

Trust me, it's all about sexual tension. You can tease her and be fun after all of that, don't worry.

Just act like you didn't get dumped and keep flirting with her and busting on her.

This is probably a shit test and for all you know she is feeding him the same line. Just keep playing her like it never happened and either she will tell you fuck off and avoid you like the plague or she will eventually come around.

You only get friendzoned and become her boybitch if you tuck your tail between your legs and accept defeat and let yourself become one of her girlfriends.

Oh and keep gaming and hooking up with other chicks. In fact flirt with them right in front of her face and if she bitches about or gives you shit just say "what do you mean? I thought you were with Bob. Stop cockblocking me, I'm working here."

Don't change how you deal with her just because you know her. Yes, don't bring up sore subjects specifically, but then again you're not her goddamn therapist. That's the quickest way to the friend zone: listening to all her problems.

So keeping up the game while she is in for the other guy will help me stay out of the Friend zone?

Well, i turned the 'fuck' part into kissing(not in a sweet way, but over-exxagerated) and she reacted in a fun way. Ill just continue the game.

The only part that's still bugging me: What if she already put me in her friend zone because of this situation with two guys going after her, the other one with a huge advantage of time. How will i be able to get out of it again or get out of it when the time comes?

It might be so that she thinks it's morally wrong to drop the other guy just because of a second interested guy, because this would have a reasonable high impact on her reputation within our student society and our direct friends. She hinted this before in a conversation before....

This is not a down-spiralling pattern of thoughts. I'm still working the game and liking it... But I just want to come prepared.

The friend zone only pertains to asexual people. Here's something you can do. Next time you meet her in person, grab her by the hand and twirl her around and say "You look pretty today." That shows a lot of confidence and that guy won't come anywhere as near.